Hi Jules,

I'm glad you all had a good time at the bbq, despite the little shower   glad you've had a little break from the mum situation too, must be eating you up a bit. I like craft markets too, I like to get handmade cards too, some are so beautiful, I tried having a go myself, but they were rubbish haha

Well, I'm officially a married woman now! Feel so grown up haha!  It was such a brilliant day! Still coming down from an amazing high. Had no nerves either, the only bit where I got a bit teary was when the vicar mentioned my dad, but I sucked it in, and managed not to ruin my make up haha it was a brilliant day and everyone said they enjoyed it so we're happy with that, because we very much did too Charlie didn't manage to walk down the aisle though because he was asleep! Bless him! Think it was a blessing though because I could've imagined him being very vocal about where mummy and daddy are, although he wasn't too bad at the rehearsal

Mum did well, she went back to the hotel for a nap at teatime and came back fresh and ready for the evening, so that was good. Yesterday, after picking up various things and checking out, was spent mooching about, and all three of us went for a nap I'm the afternoon, pure exhaustion I think ha, but it was worth it

Anyway,I hope you and hubby are keeping well, speak soon, keep smiling

Mrs. Scarborough ;o) x

Hi terribear

Was wonderful to read that you now a 'respectable married women' ha ha (if there is such a thing) and the whole family had such a smashing day. Big Congratulations fro me too.  When you come down of that high dont forget you have a 'new kitchen' to look forward to.  So pleased to read that with the help of a brief nap your Mum was also able to enjoy the celebrations.  Perhaps jsut as well little Charlie slept  through the service(very considerate of him I think) as in  my  head all I can hear is 'what you doing that for Mummy and Daddy' or more likely  'I want to go to go to the toilet NOW'.  Wishing you a long and happy future together.  Hope all is going well with Mum too. Jules xx

Hi tonic,

Nice to have you posting and thanks for your good wishes.  Hope everything is good with you, your husband and family.  Time seems to be passing all to quickly these days or maybe I am just fitting more into the daylight hours (sometimes think I should do the chores during the night as I still struggle to sleep through. Hey ho, think my system must be getting used to short naps as most days I manage on around 4hrs (my Mum was always one for little sleep and I think she has passed it on to me).  Take care Jules xxx

Hi Jules,

Thanks for the well wishes....it all seems so long ago now and it hasn't even been a week!

Mum was meant to have her op yesterday.....but it got cancelled again, felt deflated to see mum go through that again however, they told her she was going to have it today instead, and guess what.....she's just gone down to theatre! Can't believe its actually happening! I'm going over shortly, so I'm there when she comes round, and its not a wasted journey today like yesterday (lovely to see her of course anyway, but you know what I mean I hope!)  I'm anxious and also excited that we might find out what's going on finally! The surgeon yesterdayade it sound like it is a tumour and also very likely they'll have to remove the whole lung, but we'll see what happens. He did say if they remove it she can't have chemo as it'll be too dangerous with her only having one left, incase of pneumonia and chest infections etc, so that makes me worry a bit about whether its actually worth removing in the first place if they can't do anything toale sure its gone after I mean? Anyway, its all speculation, we'll have to wait and see, so fingers ( and toes) crossed!

How's things with you? Good I hope. Speak soon and take care x

Hi

After all the postponements, hope your Mum is now through her op and doing ok.  Fingers crossed you will have some reassuring news soon.

We are plodding along. Took hubby's sister (for her birthday) and brother in law/wife (plus 19 week Huskie) out for pub dinner last night (earlier plans for restaurant meal had to be changed as originally it was just going to be three of us ).  Not quite what we had in  mind but good to celebrate his older sister's birthday. Also its our 36th wedding anniversary tomorrow so nice spending time with family.  Now I am sure that will make you feel 'newlyweds' (and young) all over again.

Both going into work today though as my sleep deprivation continues I feel rather jaded this morning (and I did not even have alcohol last night so cannot blame it on a hangover).

Hope all going well. Chat again when you have the time. Take care Jules xxx

Hi Jules,

Guess what? Apparently its definitely not cancer!

They took a large chunk out to test, so she spent two nights on icu and then back to the ward she was on before she went in, but she can't go to the tv room so its costing them a fortune for the little tv by her bed, because they've said it could be tb (even though that's been ruled out twice) but also could be a number of other things, some were 'fancy words' that my mum couldn't remember to tell us haha she's supposed to be getting results back today so we're all quite excited about that!

I can't believe we've actually got to this point, never mind that its good news, feeling very blessed this last week.

And feeling very lucky this weekend, should've put the lottery on! Hope It keeps up, I've got to book my six month smear test, which is overdue a month, I couldn't face it on the run up to the wedding, ah well, will get it over and done with I guess. Think this is last one and I can go to twelve month ones I hope

Sounds like you had a nice time, I'm glad you have such a lovely close family it must help a lot

Funny enough, we had a pub meal yesterday, because we went to the place where we had our reception to take their thank you card and was going to have some lunch, but a massive party of people went in about five mins before us and it was really busy, so rather than wait ( and Charlie get restless) we went to a pub we've visited a few times before for lunch instead, because jamie wanted to get home because arsenal were on at 4, and god help if we missed that haha

And happy anniversary! Hope you enjoy your day tomorrow! And enjoy work today.....as much as you can ha

How's things going with your mum, how's she doing, ok I hope?

Speak soon, take care and keep smiling! x

Hi terri

Great news that its not cancer and hope they soon able to give you some satisfactory answers to your questions.  Hope Mum is continuing with her recovery - any idea as to whenshe may be able to return home?

Do buy that lottery ticket (I keep trying though I know it cannot buy love and happiness) and hope its a huge winner!

Thank you for your best wishes. I am visiting Mum tomorrow and have had the social worker on this afternoon (~I am still emotionally drained and very ) so have the sad task of telling her that our social services have referred her for transer to Sheltered Housing (with a care package) though no formal decision has yet been made. You would think that after 4 months we would be a bit further a long but their wheels might fall off completely if they went any faster and I cant agree with their ideas anyway.  Apparently residential care is necessary when you self-fund but as soon as your money runs low/out you can manage with reduced care!!!

Look forward to hearing more good news from your neck of the woods and wish you all a peaceful week.  Jules xx

Hey Jules,

No results back today, no news as to when mum coming home yet either, they said she could be on up to ten days, and she's developed a chest infection overnight so its looking likely to be nearer ten if not more, she's doing ok though.

Yeah I will buy a ticket tomorrow, you never know. And yeah I agree about the love and happiness, but I already have that so that's ok, could just do with paying someone else to do the kitchen and bedroom, and moving out while its done, and then enough to pay a cleaner to do my dusting and ironing (least fave jobs ever ha)

Hope your mum is ok, when you visit. And yeah, its funny how they're happy for people to spend their own money for care buy as soon as they have to help, reassessment says it needs to be cheaper care, I really feel for you, and know its probably unlikely, but I'll keep my fingers crossed that they come good and do right for your mum. I'm not surprised you're emotionally drained and I'm sure the angry face was a polite way of saying what you're really feeling but keep smiling and don't forget your 'me' time.

Speak soon, take care x

Hi terri

Do hope your Mum soon recovers from her chest infection and that sooner rather than later you get to the bottom of her problems so that treatment can be sorted should it be required.

Bought two lottery tickets today (one on behalf of Mum) - when we become millionnaires I will have great pleasure in giving s.s. what for.  In the meantime having spoken to Mum's care staff we decided not to worry her with 'details' at the moment and will wait until we have a definite decision before causing her distress (think it will also give me time to work out my strategy as the longer we hold out/appeal the less savings she has).  I spent a quite hour or so with her this morning and in between her dozing just had normal chat about family and friends.  She is not really bothered with anything but at least she listens and nods so cant ask for more.

I love your comment about moving out whilst the building/decorating work is done.  If only we could all do that - I could get our home out of the 70's (when we moved in!!) and wouldn't have the stress but thats a dream.

Take care and hope to chat again soon. Thanks for your virtual friendship. Jules xx