hey guys,

wow jules, sounds like you had a very busy christmas! we had a quiet one with just me, my fiance and son, it was nice, as i managed to wangle 2 days off too haha, not easy in retail ha!

my mum in law had her op on tuesday and had to stay in for 2 nights due to losing a little bit more blood in her drains as the doctor liked, but she's home now and doing really well, spirits are up and she's coming to terms with losing her breast and whatever comes next, but she's just concentrating on her recovery first. my mum still hasn't had any results back, she went for a pet scan and that didn't show anything, so they're now re-sending her previous biopsies off for more tests for cancer and tb. she isn't eating properly again, even though her appetite had picked up at one point (today at 3pm when i spoke to her, she'd had 2 biscuits all day!) and she's in a lot of pain now thats been getting gradually worse over the last 2 weeks, mainly in her back but now shes getting it in her hips and today she said she felt generally crap, i hope this is nothing to do with whatever illness she may or may not have and just general aches and pains but until we hear anything back(whenever that may be) we won't know, so just clinging onto hope that it is tb (best out of a bad situation?) so we'll see. but thats us up to date.....although i've got to go for my 6 monthly smear test this week i'm dreading it because things come in 3's don't they?! ah well, gotta be done, even though i hate them and i'll cry, i'm such a softie!!! 

hi mickied,

sorry to hear about your aunt and your cousin who not only will be grieving but having to go through it all herself too, my best wishes to he, and you too, and yes i agree, it does feel like its never ending, especially when like with my mum, there are still no results of any kind, its just making things drag, my mums getting so fed up now, and so are we, just want to know she's ok, or will be when she's treated for whatever it is she has.

thanks for your message, all the best to you and yours

Terri

Hi Terri

Sorry to hear your Mum (and you) are still waiting to find out the cause of her pain. Always so hard when you are waiting on results - it plays havoc with your head. Hope you dont have to wait too much longer and that its good news. Also pleased to read that your mum in law is in good recovery spirits following her operation. Long may it continue. Hope you are sharing more good news soon    Take  care of yourself.

Well it must be something in the water as I too have had the dreaded 'smear' letter. As I am dealing with the clearing out of my Mum's rented property this week (she now has a permanent place in local care home and is very frail)  and am somewhat stressed will need to see this through and then get an appointment sorted to fit round my work hours!! As you say not something to look forward to but not something we can ignore either. Just another note to self to get it sorted.

Best wishes Jules

Hey Jules, yeah as long as you don't forget to do it! I'm going tomorrow. Yuk, hate it. But needs must. Mum in law has an infection, but been given antibiotics, um sure she'll be fine. She's going back to hosp tomorrow hoping to hear news about results from samples sent off and check wound again, so we'll see what that brings. I phoned my mums nurse myself this week because mum is just fed up and thinks there's no point, but I told her there definitely is, the nurse said her doc is chasing up the results and hopes to hear something his week, so again, we'll see what comes of that, on the plus side mum is feeling loads better, her back and hips are great so perhaps it was just stiff or something. Will keep updating. How is your mum feeling about having to move, is she ok? Its quite upsetting I'm sure, she'll feel the loss of independence most I think. What about you, sounds like you have a lot on, I hope you're keeping care of yourself too? x

Hi Terri

Firstly good luck for tomorrow. As they say once its done its done. Have made a note on the calendar to sort mine out too. Hope your mum-in-laws infection responds

quickly to the antibiotics and that she gets welcome news at the hospital. Also pleased to read that your Mum feeling so much better (maybe the pain was not helped but the cold weather!). Sounds like you have your hands fully checking up on them. Hope you have support too.

Thanks for asking about my Mum. Bless her she had been hospitalised since last April following a fall at home (no bones broken but lost her will to carry on - she suffers from mental bi-polar problems). After many months social services finally agreed that it would not be safe for her to return to her rented flat and she agreed last November to go into care.  After Christmas she was more settled andher stay is now permanent so we have spent the past week clearing the rented flat and sorting things out.  Have to say I found the whole process quite emotional and the day after it really hit home and I was a bit of a wreck at work but they are great mates as well as work colleagues and they supported me and got me through and I am bouncing back. Today I went to visit Mum  and brought her up to date about how me and the grandchildren had incorporated pieces of her old home into ours and she was happy that we are keeping some things. I also took a couple of bits in to cheer up her room and she was quite bright and chatty today so feel a bit better myself.

Wishing you and your family good news this coming week. Its good to share. Take care Jules

Hi Jules,

aww, sounds like your mum has gone through a lot, and you with her, its great that you have good workmates, i am the same, they cheer me up no end, which has been welcome lately! i am glad she is settling in ok, i'm sure it is scary for her, but at least she has you and your children to cheer her up somewhat, because that can sometimes make all the difference. i'm sure it was very hard for you too, clearing her property and sorting things out, its a very emotional time, brings back memories and sorrow for things presently happening too, i'm sure i'd have been a wreck too, although at the minute....an andrex advert can tip me over the edge haha, i'm glad you're coping ok, and i hope once you all get into a routine, things settle down and start to look brighter again.

i had my smear, come back clear yay! less to worry about! mum in law has had some brilliant news, they've got it all, and the lymph nodes came back negative too. the cancer was hormone sensitive, and so she has to go on hormone tablets from now on, which i'm sure she wont mind if it keeps it away! she just has to speak to the oncologist now on thurs and speak about possibly having chemo or radiotherapy, her doctor said its not definite but they may just recommend one or the other, or both, incase they missed a couple of cells etc

my mum unfortunately, still has no news, she was supposed to hear back from the on friday, she ended up calling them, to be told she'd get a call back....which didnt happen, they did tell her earlier in the week, if nothing came on the last ones, she has to have some more biopsies on her lung and another bronchoscope, bit disheartening, but suppose it must be done. so knowing about mum in law has released a bit of pressure, just need to know about mine now, and then i can concentrate properly on the wedding planning!

keep your chin up

Terri

oh dear, that sounds like shes really been through the wars, i hope you're all ok.

my mum in law is doing really well, the cancer has been caught, her lymph nodes came back negative, and she has to speak to the oncologist this week about possible radio or chemotherapy, although thats not a definite yet, so thats all good.

my mum is still in the dark, she was hoping to hear back but didnt, and so will probably be going back for more biopsies in her lung and a bronchoscopy this week at some point.

stay smiling

Terri

Hi

Good news for your mum in law and your smear test. A little less to be worried about is always a good thing. Hopefully it wont be long before your Mum has some news and you know whether you are coming or going - its a bit like bumper cars, not knowing when the next knock is coming.

Take care

Woken this morning to a light snow covering so will break out thre wellies for the walk to the station so hopefully keep the feet dry and me upright!

Jules

Hi Terribear - Found out my cousin is keeping well and is thinking about returning to work next month - some good news at last.

That was good news for your mum-in-law and fingers crossed about the treatment plan.

Fingers still crossed for your poor mum hopefully she will get some good news very soon.

You have so much to cope with at the minute but stay strong.

Take care

Mickied