Lung cancer what to expect?

My mum Has been diagnosed with level 4 lung cancer. She has a tumour in each lung. One is more aggressive then the other. It has also spread to her lymph nodes. We have been told life expectancy is few weeks to a few months. I don't know whether it was fate but I moved in with mum in January as I my full time job was made redundant and I needed a stop gap and as a single parent with a young daughter mum asked us to move back into the family home and it made sens. Me and mum are very close we lost my day 15 years ago to a brain tumour and mum had list a lot of energy. I put it down to depression and mum wanted the company, little did I know we would get this diagnosis 4mths later. I called the ambulance as mum had this terrible chest infection and cough that wouldn't go. Who would of thought the night she went in 3 weeks later we would be feeling this devastated.  I have gone part time at work and me and my daughter. They have offered me a part time role doing my same job and I am pleased I did as I am now caring for mum at home. I know mum is feeling tired and has lost a lot of weight etc. She is also complaining of  pain that occurs at 2am in the morning at the same time is this normal? She says it's excrutiating. it's travelling round her back. Iam giving her oral morphine and paracetomol as directed fro district nurse any suggestions on anything else as I hate seeing her like this. Iam up with her at the same time is this normal nurse said it's the tumour contracting. I wad not around to see my dad as I was 18 at uni and it upset me and dad decided that he did not want me to see him like it. Although I was with him at the end atvthe hospice but did not experience the painful bit. My mum wants to stay at home and I just want an idea of what to expect with this. Iam a bit frightened and don't want my mum in pain. I have prepared my self for the worst news mentally in the hospital and have shown strength to my mum. Will there be pain and what other things should I look out for? Just need a bit of advice x    

  • I'm so sorry to hear this. I am still awaiting my mums biopsy and just in such a mess waiting for that news alone. I feel very similar to you I don't want my mum in pain and suffering, good luck and lots of love getting through this jo xx
  • We've just had the diagnosis of stage iv lunch cancer which spread to her lymph nodes. She's been told a few months to live. I'm a single parent with no real family and I'm devastated beyond measure. No treatment offered has appointment with cancer specialist in January (Christmas not helping) but no offer of real assistance or how it will end. Can't bear that this is the last Christmas or she won't see my child start school. Diagnosis was slow and they lost her X-ray I think our health service is great but all she's been prescribed is steroids. I'm probably just upset at unfairness of life. Good luck to everyone going through this.
  • this is so similar to my experience with my dad he was diagnosed with lung cancer a few weeks ago with no treatment being offered it's heartbreaking especially this time of year I also have a little one which he will miss growing Up it's really hard to take, is your mum going home we are looking to get dad home pretty soon
  • Hi I'm in the same situation as you by the sounds of it. My mum had a chest infection a month before Christmas and had X-rays and a CT scan. Got the results of her biopsy last Friday and she has been diagnosed with non small cell lung cancer. There is also a small part that has gone into the lymph mode on her chest. We now have the painful wait to find out the PET scan results which will determine if it has spread anywhere else. My mum is only 68 and my best friend , I am heartbroken and completely lost. Kind regards Gaia xx
  • Sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, we diddnt know my mum was suffering lung cancer, she died and she was only 63, it was only when the biopsy came back we realised she had cancer and none of us were there tohelp her and she died all alone and that is such a *** xxx so console yourself that you were there xxxxxxxxxxx
  • It is so unfair and unfathomable.. I was in the same position as you a little over 2 years ago..  my whole world fell apart when I lost my beloved mom and best friend to metastic non small cell lung cancer at the age of 67 and less than 9 months after being diagnosed. I take comfort from being with her as much as was possible, and then being with her until the very end in the final days.. We made memories, shared special moments and I tried not to leave anything left unsaid.. I was able to tell her how much I loved her every single day and felt blessed to have the time to do this as I was aware that some people have loved ones snatched away in an instant in traumatic accidents or sudden death.. my thoughts and prayers are with you.. I'm sure you are making  your memories to add to your lifetime of others, and telling her how much you love her every day. God bless and take care

  • I too am in the same situation with my mum treated for lung cancer 2 years ago and has now returned since december also spread to lymph glands of the chest been told that there is nothing for her and given a few months to live. She has also just had radiotherapy on her arm as it was picked up there too when she had a bad fall. Its all the not knowing of how each day is gonna be or how quick its gonna take hold of life theres so many families struggling with the dredded disease but at least we have here to share our experiences together and know where all going through same thing

     Thinking of you

  • Hi Gaia you seem to have to same situation as me, I know you post was a few months ago but I hope your coping with things x my mums is stage 3b she had chemo twice and then was too ill to carry on just waiting for the results from her 2nd cat scan to see where she is at. Every day there seems to be some new infection but she says the worst thing is boredom she is too ill to enjoy going out and too breathless to manage walking too uncomfortable to sit in the car for a drive. Just trying to motivate her and make her laugh as much as possible, wish I had a magic potion. Hope you and your mum are coping xxx take care x Kit
  • This is amazing! My mum had lung cNcer she had op and they removed huge tumour but she didn't improve, 4 months down the line it's regrow the at a rapid rate and has gone to ribs and spine stage 4. She's been told she has weeks left! I want to Know about this drug you took why hasn't it been mentioned to us? I'd love to have her here for two more years or even a few months x