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Partner with pituitary tumor

Zapp
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My partner was told yesterday that he has a pituitary tumor after over 18 months of eye tests etc. He told me this morning via text about the outcome of the appointment - we don't yet live together - so we will have a conversation this evening about what treatment is being proposed.

I've read that this is unlikely to be cancerous which is comforting, but the news has shocked me, understandably. 

I want to support him and know that he'll be going through a version of hell right now, so will likely be angry, upset, emotional, in other words, human. How do I support him and keep calm about it all? 

Thanks

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Zapp.
    I’m sorry to hear about the news your partner received. As you had that conversation a couple of days ago, I imagine the reality of the situation is starting to sink in for both of you.
    In these early days, perhaps the most helpful thing you can do is to be a calm presence. Often, just knowing that someone is there to listen without judgement is the greatest comfort when a person feels their world has been turned upside down. It is also important to look after yourself; to stay calm, try to focus only on the information the doctors have provided so far rather than looking too far into the future.
    To help you understand more about what this diagnosis involves, you may find this page on pituitary tumours from our website helpful. It explains the different types and what to expect, which might help you feel more prepared as you support your partner through his upcoming appointments.
    If you feel you need more information or simply wish to talk through your concerns as you navigate these next steps, our team of nurses are just one call away. You can reach them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, from 9 am to 5 pm.
    I hope that having had that initial talk has brought you both a little more clarity, and please remember we are here for whenever you need a chat.
    Best wishes to you both,
    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
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    Thank you Renata. Much appreciated.

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