Newby, but maybe not so. My wife had cancer in the 70s. I was diagnosed in 2023. We're both still here and just celebrated our 65th wedding anniversary

Hi' everyone I'm new to the Forum but not new to the disease.

Going back to the early 70's my wife was diagnosed with Ovarian C. She had surgery and Radio. Eighteen month later it returned in her Kidneys, she underwent Chemo' . I believe she was more or less a Chemo Pioneer at that time. It was pretty rough. She stuck Ridgedley to her protein diet and survived for 20+ years then her remaining kidney failed resulting in Dialysis. After a few years they found a kidney for her and she underwent a transplant. She's had small C's in her bladder and had the cauterised. She is still with me

With my wife's problems in mind I have always tried to take care of myself hopping to avoid the disease. However in 2023 I started having bowel pains. It would come and go so I didn't relate it to C. Then on New Years eve while asleep I was wakened with pain like someone had stuck a kitchen knife into my gut. Had to get the emergency services and was admitted to hospital. After X-Rays Scans and blood tests as we all know. The Consultant confirmed it a big 80mm one. I went for surgery and the oncologist said because of my fitness and good health I didn't need Chemo'. Is it the expertise of my surgeon that I don't have a colostomy either he re-joined the colon inside. Unfortunately after about twelve month and going for my routine scan, I got the message it was in my lung. I've had it out via surgery and all I can say is I feel more or less my normal self now, going about my life as usual, It's 8 weeks since my last scan and heard nothing yet so no news is good news

I've made this post mainly for those folk new to the disease. It's not the end of the world. It's bloody annoying going through it all but you've just got to do as you're told and put up with it. 

Me and my wife have just celebrated our 65th wedding anniversary thanks to the NHS Professionals. So all is not lost

But it is a *** disease 

  • Hello Ray-J and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I'm so sorry to hear about everything you and your wife have been through on your cancer journeys. It sounds like it has been very challenging for you both but I'm so glad your treatments were successful and that you and your wife have just celebrated your 65th wedding anniversary; a massive congratulations to you both. I hope you managed to do something special to celebrate reaching this amazing milestone.

    I'm sure some of our members will be along soon to offer their congratulations to you both as well but in the meantime I just wanted to thank you for sharing your stories with us and for reminding us that all is not lost when you have cancer. I'm sure your experiences will really help our members and give them so much strength.

    Look after yourself Ray-J and fingers crossed your scan results bring good news when they come through.

    Best wishes to you both,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Ray-J,

    A very warm welcome to our forum. It sounds as if you are more than conversant with the challenges that this disease brings. I am sorry to hear that you have succumbed to it now and have already had 2 surgeries. I am delighted to hear that you and your wife celebrated your 65th wedding anniversary together - we celebrated our golden with family last year, so still have a few years to catch up on you. I was first diagnosed 16 years ago, so we were happy to reach this milestone.

    I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer after a harrowing 12 year term and still shudder when I think of some of her experiences throughout treatment - it certainly was pretty rough. Your wife has done remarkably well to have come through so much. I am so glad to hear that you are recovering well after your recent surgery and I sincerely hope that you both continue to beat the odds for many more years to come. Many thanks for sharing such a positive story.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • We received a card from the King congratulating us