How to help a young adult deal with emotions whilst supporting a friend with terminal diagnosis

My son is 19 and his close friend of 15 years has terminal cancer. He is in a hospice and I was told that he only has weeks to live, I am not sure whether that is four weeks or fourteen weeks. He has just had his medications upped. My son is away at university and visiting his friends a couple of times a week. He is very emotional and I am worried about his well being and mental health. (He has admitted to us that he is struggling with his mental health). What is the best way to support him.

Thank you for any advice.

  • Welcome to the forum Morris although I'm very sorry to hear that a close friend of your son has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. This must be such a difficult time for them both.

    It must be very tough to see your son going through this but it's good he has opened up to you and revealed he's struggling. If he hasn't done so already, try and encourage him to reach out for support, be that through his GP or the mental health and well being services that are offered by his university. They will be able to help him navigate this difficult time in his life whilst being away from home and managing his studies.

    The Teenage Cancer Trust have some really good advice for young people on how to support a friend with cancer and your son can seek out further support and advice from Young Lives VS Cancer. They have a live chat service available Monday - Friday between 10.a.m - 4p.m and a list of other services, including ones for mental health, that can offer urgent support when your son needs it the most.

    I hope some of our members will share their thoughts and advice with you soon, but in the meantime we're sending you all our strength and support and hope your son and their close friend can make the most of the time they have left together.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator