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Hi, my son has CLL and has now been diagnosed with Richter's Transformation. I don't know what to do for him. I am worried sick for him and feel utterly helpless. He is an independent young man - in his 30s - and doesn't seem to need his mum. I wondered if anyone had any advice as to how to help without being pushy and without him feeling obliged to accommodate - I don't want him to feel the need to make me feel ok. I want to make him feel ok. Everything I read online - and on this website - points to a poor prognosis. It's difficult to be positive. And I don't want to be toxically positive. But at the same time, a positive thinking might help with the prognosis? Any advice is welcome.  xx

  • Hi Tanjo,

    Your situation sounds so difficult, I can't imagine how I'd feel if my son were so poorly.

    I can understand wanting to be supportive, and to be there for him, but if he is as independent as you say, he might not want that.

    I know my son would probably tell me to stop fussing!

    I don't have any experience I can offer. I think if it were me and my son, I would just tell him he knows where I am if he ever needs anything, but that I will wait for him to ask.

    Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way x