Hi.  I am 48 and learned I have breast cancer last Weds.  They have done a biopsy of one of the lumps in my breast (I have 3 x approx 3.5cm in size), and a suspicious lump in 1 lymph node.  I have a follow up appointment on 11th Aug to confirm the type etc and a treatment plan.

This waiting period is torture.  My brain is going to every place you can imagine with every possible question being asked internally, but until I know more about what type and stage, and whether it's the lymph node aswell, I can't get a better handle on research, and being autistic I'm such a details person.  I want ALL the knowledge and I need it right now.  I feel like once I start treatment, I'll at least feel like something is moving forwards, no matter how awful it will be.

I have a very supportive husband and 2 teenage sons (ages 15 and 16).  Any advice on the best way to tell them and when?  We definitely want to wait until we have a treatment plan so that hopefully it can be a positive conversation, or as positive as it can be.  Those with teenagers, how did you tell them and is there anything you would change if you had to do it again?

Thanks in advance xx