Hello Abr1,

as a former cancer patient l can tell you its so hard dealing with the unknown.Its even harder for their partner who has to deal with the unknown-unknown. 

l became very aware that whilst as the sufferer people would rush to me with support, my wife was left pretty much stranded,so it was so much harder for her.

Whilst the sufferer can unload their anxienty on the third parties assisting them to recover, the partner can be left in the cold  holding on to their fears not daring to share with their other half for fear of causing distress.

How do you hold on to hope? l would suggest by seeking an outlet and opportunity to unload your fears and concerns with others facing the same issues at differing stages of the cancer journey which can provide a perspective that could hopefully help you deal with things from a firmer footing.You cannot change how things are, but you can change how you deal with them.

So support for yourself is essential wherever you can find that, if you have a nearby MAGGIES l would urge you to attend, they are not only for patients, but for all sufferers and provide an oasis of peace,callm,understanding,gentle advice and the opportunity for you to discover the answers to all your questions and fears.

l hope you can find your way in moving gently forwardi n such a traumatic time,

David

Holding onto hope - that can be helped partially by talking to us. Even if I cannot help personally, at least you can unload on here and unloading does help.

Thank you so much that helped me a lot  today