Hello kwh

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with some issues around your health at the moment. I'm a little unsure from your post if you've already been diagnosed with prostate cancer or if you have concerns about your prostate health. Perhaps you could tell us a little more about your circumstances. 

It can be difficult for many people to share how they are feeling or coping with a given situation. If it feels difficult to talk with your partner about things, then perhaps you could put down in writing how you're feeling. Perhaps there is a mutual friend or family member who could help you talk with your partner. Perhaps it's a case of finding a relaxed environment to have a casual conversation. 

If it would help to talk things through with one of our nurses, you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

i had a radical robotic prostatectomy 2017 was told all good then about 2020 started to return was booked for 32 radiation treatments had severe burns at 17 so was stopped then monitored up to now passing blood in my urine for a week then had a ct scan and a camera inspection a tumour was found in my bladder i am waiting for my procedure to have it shaved for a biopsy at my wits end

Hi sorry to here your situations  it's real *** at times I'm 56 had prostatectomy  in January   there seems to be so many complications  caused by it I'm lucky my wife is fantastic  we speak all the time about it I've had days when all I want to do is cry which isn't me it's upsetting  I can't ho and stay with friends as I've had a couple accidents  at night although most of the time I'm fine  it would be nice getting a straight  answer about when I can start taking viagra  I no its only  been 4 months but would be nice to no