Waiting for results is horrible.  Definitely the worst part of the process so far.  In my experience it got easier as time went on.

You could try medication to help get you through if you feel comfortable with that....

Whatever the outcome of the consultation, you will feel so relieved to have got through it and it will give you a good boost of confidence to have done so.

Often I have found the fear of any experience is worse than the actual experience itself.  I do hope that is the case on Friday.  Good luck! 

Thankyou so much I’m absolutely petrified of the results and wondering if it’s ragging through my body and they say they can’t do anything xx

When my children were younger and upset about something, it was suggested to me that I should say something like, "This too will pass".  I have found that quite helpful to say to myself in adult life.when I've been very stressed about something.....

My wife is 3 years out from her main chemo treatment etc. and yeah, this particular junction of the diagnosis sucks badly on the mental front. We found nothing to really douse the fear. If you manage to find an answer, bottle it and sell it for millions.

We feared the worse too. Her cancer was pretty locally advanced and was very aggressive. Prior to her diagnosis day, she had had a horrid cough for months that i kept nagging her to go and see about, she had bad sciatica in her back/legs, and she also had something else which escapes me at the moment. Anyway, i was convinced it was through her. Not because of the back pain, but because of the cough. I was mentally a state inside, but i hid it all from her.

Come her full scan results day, the cough was allergies and the back issue was muscular. So even if you freak out at every twinge until you get full scan results, the chances are it's something else. You became tense too and that also plays havoc with muscles etc. You'll overanalyse everything, but try to put it in perspective. I found walking helped the most for me.

Hi Pollypwrks,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear of the situation you find yourself in and I understand your anxiety. Most of us get very tearful at this stage. Don't worry about this, this is a great stress reliever. You will find that irrespective of the outcome, you will feel better once you know the results of your tests. I had 2 bouts of breast cancer, within a year of each other and was told at my first visit, each time, that I had it. The surgeons don't mince their words with you. If they think that it might be cancer, they will tell you this. If they thought that it was widespread, they would also have told you this. Even your care team cannot always tell the extent of your cancer, until they see your results, but it is perfectly normal to fear the worst and give reign to our overactive imaginations, which can lead us to some very dark places. Fortunately, this seldom happens.

I lost my mum to secondary cancer, after a 12 year battle with primary cancer and was an absolute mess after my consultation. My first thoughts went to my children and hubby, which is only natural. Fortunately, diagnosis, treatments and after care have all improved tremendously in the intervening years and there was just no comparison, between what we both experienced. It is now 15 years since I got this news and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. I have also seen my children leave school, go to university, graduate, find gainful employment, fall in love, marry and provide me with 2 beautiful granddaughters.

The one piece of advice I can give you is to steer clear of consulting "Dr Google". Much of this information is out of date, poorly researched and aimed at the more spectacular cases. This won't give you any answers and will only serve to scare you even further. Try not to look too far to the future until you know what you are dealing with. Take things day by day, or even hour by hour, if need be.

I sincerely hope that things go well on Friday. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Morning I’ve also had a nagging cough for months don’t smoke , pains also in my back and legs I went to gp few months ago and had physio which just made it worse but listening to your journey gives me a bit of hope , I’m a nurse at our hospital and being this side of the fence is completely different so glad your wife is making good progress … yes we walk most evenings 

Hi it’s so good to hear positive journeys and gives me hope sorry you lost your mum to breast cancer I did too but from diagnosis until she passed was only 5 weeks she never spoke about it we weren’t aloud that was 13 years ago so all I’ve got in my head is what happened to my mum … I haven’t stopped crying and drowning in my emotions . Will definitely let you know how I get on xx

Hi Pollypwrks,

I was in one of the professions associated to medicine and I don't think that this helped my mindset. You are probably the same, being a nurse. My Mum had a very hard time from diagnosis to her final days and as soon as I was diagnosed, pictures of this kept  running through my mind.

How did you get on today? I hope that things are better than you feared.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Morning yes feeling better now I know it’s stage 2 breast cancer with a single lymph node too but the pet scan showed it’s not gone anywhere else which is brilliant and easier for me to mentally get my head around and I know it can be cured , all I had in my mind was my mums diagnoses and how little time we had with her and I keep playing that in my mind thinking I wouldn’t see summer or Christmas it was brutal thinking I know there’s along way to go but I keep thinking they can cure me hope your ok … polly x