Hi Tricia,

A very warm welcome to our forum. I am sorry to hear of all that you've been through, without getting the support you need at this upsetting time. Did you have reconstruction at the time of your surgery, or are you still waiting for it? I had 2 bouts of breast cancer. The first time I had a lumpectomy, but, the following year, I had a double mastectomy for the second, Unfortunately, due to scarring, from previous, non-cancer related surgery, I was not a suitable candidate for reconstruction. That was all 15 years ago now and I manage well with an assortment of prostheses for different activities. There are alternative donor sites for reconstruction, so make sure to discuss these with your surgeon. On the whole, outcomes seem to be good, although if the cancer recurs, a small minority, have had to get the implant removed.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Trivia.b. ..you need care, support and understanding,  only you can make the decision in regards to your partner and the relationship,  most important thing is to take care of yourself..