Hi

my name is Dom. My wife was referred to a specialist just before Christmas for a lump in the neck. Previous to that the GP had told her that she should wait to see if it would go away. She waited six weeks. After seeing the specialist she was called in after two biopsies. He said that she has an aggressive rare form of cancer ( I was with her by phone ) Adenocarcinoma. She was told that the lump in her neck is too small to get the needle into which is why she had two biopsies. The results said that it was highly suspicious. I was a little confused here because it seemed like he was not sure.  Then he told us that she would need an operation to remove the lump which is less than 6mm. Following this she would need radiotherapy but not chemotherapy. He ordered two scans and took a blood test. The first was a CT scan. The second was going to be an MRI but he cancelled that because they have enough from the CT scan.  Now, both of us have taken this last bit of news very differently. I am more positive because surely it means it hasn’t spread and if it has not too far. Yet she is taking it like it means it’s stage 4 with no hope.  She goes back and forth between stress and the denial of having any form of cancer. I’m unable to comfort her in any way. I worry about her. She is the most amazing woman I’ve ever met and it crushes me that this has happened. On top of this, I am housebound and in a wheelchair and she is my main carer. Not that I care about that in terms of losing her support but in terms of not being able to support her. Am I wrong to be so positive about the mri cancellation ? How can I support her best in terms of the waiting?

kind regards

Dom