Hi Joljm, 

First of all congratulations on this wonderful baby news! But I am so sorry that your wife's mum has been diagnosed with cancer which has spread to her bones and it must have been a bit of shock to get this sad news shortly after the news of the pregnancy and you must feel so powerless knowing that your wife's family is living in Europe and that you can't go and see them easily whenever you want to. There is also the fear you describe of your mother in law deteriorating when your wife is in later stages of her pregnancy when she will be unable to fly. It must be so hard for you as you want to make sure your wife is feeling ok despite the really sad news and that she can enjoy her pregnancy as much as possible. All you can do really is what you seem to be doing already so brilliantly, and that's being there for your wife, showing her that you are by her side to comfort her and to support her through the pregnancy and through the emotional upset that her mum's diagnosis has inevitably caused. 

I hope that the pregnancy is going well and that you are getting ready for the baby's arrival - I bet the baby news is also of great comfort to your mother in law and hopefully once the baby is born and it is safe for everyone to fly, you will get to introduce your little one to your wife's mum and have some quality time all together. When is the baby due if you don't mind me asking?

I will now let other members of our community come and say hello. It may be that there are others out there who have faced a similar situation.

Best wishes to you and your wife, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator