Hi Sue

My cancer is different to your husbands so I can't give any advice, but here for a chat anytime you want. Sending hugs. Xx

Hiya, 

Thanks for the reply. Been today and signed consent for the treatment to start next week. I feel so alone with this my hubby is seemingly unfazed. We have both been quite irritable with each other most unusual as we never argue but recently we have been niggly with each other. I suppose this is natural as we are both under a lot of stress. Just wondered if this is the case for others?

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Hi Sue

It's good your husband has a start date. A cancer diagnosis is a head f**k for the person with cancer but also for those around them albeit in a different way. I can only speak from the side of the person with cancer. I make out I'm OK and most of the time I am, I think it's my way of coping and not wanting to upset people around me. While I know people around me mean well sometimes the things they say make me angry specifically when they tell me how strong I am and I feel anything but. My hospital has a charity attached where you can access councillors among other things and it's for the patient and family maybe yours does also Macmillan provide lots of stuff like that. I hope this makes some sort of sense to you, I know what I'm trying to say just not good at putting on paper as such. There's no right or wrong way to deal just what ever works for you. I hope the treatment goes well next week. Sending hugs. Xx