A worried mum for a 3 year old with prolonged swollen Lymphnodes, in neck, armpits and groin.

Hi, 

my names Laura and I am mummy to my little 3 year old boy. Back in march this year my little boy became increasingly unwell. He has developed a rash, to which we were just fobbed off as chicken pox, but as a mother and my gut feeling I knew it wasn’t. One day a couple of weeks after this said rash, he completely lost the use of his left leg, he had enlarged lymph nodes on his neck, armpit and groin. I took him to two hospitals who were quick to send us home, with no tests, no X-rays, no scans, and telling me the limp and pain was due to having a virus. I insisted this was not right, but went home with my little boy. I returned the next day, my son was barely able to walk, to which we were finally listened to and admitted to a ward. Then we had x rays and bloods on my son’s chest and knees. The blood test results came back with raised LDH levels, and the x ray on his knee showed inflammation. After staying in hospital for 2 days we were discharged, with consultants informing me, the limp, inflammation in knee and swollen lymph’s were due to him recovering from a really bad virus. To which I thought to myself I’m going to have to listen to what they say, they are the professionals. But still something still didn’t sit right. Over the next coming weeks and months, my son was suffering with severe headaches during the night and day, causing him to vomit, he was refusing to eat, complained of stomach pains, tiredness, just genuinely unwell… also still walking with a slight limp and crying in pain. We had our follow up appointment in the May with the paeds consultant, who repeated bloods and x ray on knees, I also shared my concerns that the lymphnodes were still enlarged in all 3 areas and have not gone down at all. When we received blood test results, he was now Anaemic, but the LDH level had come back down to the correct level….. fast forward now to November,new have had another follow up appointment in clinic, where I expressed my sons lymphnodes are still swollen, and a lot bigger than they were at the beginning, and consultant herself said there was a ‘significant amount’, the ones in his groin are more of a long shape, and feel like some have matted together to form ones that are bigger, they even go down his leg slightly, the consultant says they are 1.5cm which isn’t not clinically anything to worry about but, to me they feel so large, he is still complaining of pains in his knee, his still off his food, he has sweat pooling on his for head when he is sleeping and I have noticed, he is waking more in the night and his hair is wet with sweat! He has now started to make a noise with his throat every time he is eating and saying there is something in his throat. He had bloods repeated at this appointment, which again has shown a rise in his LDH, raised basophils, eosinophils, he is still showing as anaemic with low ferritin and b12. We have had another x ray which I am assuming has come back ok, because I haven’t been told. This time the consultant has referred us to Paediatric Haematology at QMC. I am absolutely worried sick, I have not slept in days, we have an appointment though with oncology in December and I am just looking for advice and people to talk to who have possibly been through this? I have honestly felt like they thought I was loosing the plot, but now I’m starting to believe my gut instinct has been right. I’m petrified his has Lymphoma, this is a mums gut instinct I’ve had for months and months and don’t feel like anyone wanted to listen because blood tests aren’t showing anything alarming….. I haven also noticed there’s some more lymph’s appearing in his groin…. Thank you for taking the time to read, and reply. I’d just like to hear from anyone in the same position. Do I push for biopsy and ultrasounds? 

  • Hi Laura,

    I do not have a child, but I am going through the process myself at the moment of scans and tests to see if a lump I have is cancerous. I know it’s a long and delayed process.

    What I have learnt from this process so far is to keep pushing. The staff are all lovely when you see them, but ultimately they only have so much time and you know your boy the best. Keep on at your GP, let the hospital know you’re available for short notice cancellations, keep checking that referrals to be put forward as urgent by a doctor actually have been marked as urgent (had that issue myself this week and I had to get onto the consultant’s secretary to correct their error in marking it as routine!). Be polite (I am sure you are), but be strong and insistent. I also plan what I am saying ahead and after any call or consultation I make notes of what was discussed and with who so that I can refer back to them. 

    You sound like you are doing everything you can for your boy. It is really good news that you have the oncology appointment in the diary. It’s something to focus on. You’re one step closer. They will no doubt refer for any other tests in that appointment, but have all your thoughts and questions down in paper in front of you. And always ask them why if you’re unsure.

    Remember to take time for yourself and try to do things to take your mind off it. Go and see Santa with your boy, have a film day with some family or friends or anything else you like to do in your spare time. You can’t run off an empty tank. I know it’s easier said than done! For every sinister thing this could be, there are no doubt a dozen other things it could be.

    Keep going, you’ve got this x

  • Hi Loz,

    thank you so much for your reply. I will be keeping you in my thoughts, I hope you get some answers really soon. I am hoping at our appointment on the 10th they can shed some light onto why these lymphnodes and all these issues have been so consistent for 8 months or more. The whole process of oncology and even reading that word is so daunting, and I’m trying to tell myself, it’s all going to be ok. But, having this gut feeling for so long, and I know we shouldn’t, but doing loads of research and hearing and reading other stories, just makes me so scared for what it could potentially be. 

    Since March, I have fought hard for my son and made sure I am listened to, although I think they thought I had lost the plot lol! But I made sure I had video evidence of the things, I’ve dated and timed all the times he’s been sick, or had a headache etc. if there is one thing I’ll do in the world, and that’s have a voice for my kids. So I think I’m going to go into this appointment with open ears and understanding, but I am not walking out without proper investigations done. A lot of times, lymphoma can only be diagnosed with a biopsy, and I feel I will never settle unless someone can absolutely 100% tell me it’s not.

    thank you for all your tips and your kindness. I’m sending you love and hoping you get some of your answers soon xxx