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Scared to tell parents about breast cancer

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I've got more than 3 symptoms of breast cancer at 15.

So, this has been on my mind for a while, as a 15 year old girl. I'm worried about breast cancer as I have a lot of the symptoms, with inverted nipples, changing lumps on my right side of breast and recently nipple discharge. I used to think it was normal until our school told us about different types of cancer. Idk how to tell my parents about it becuase i told my mum before and she said I probably didn't have it and brushed it off.
I'm really worried because I don't want it spreading to other parts of my body- idk if Im overreacting or what but i'm scared and idk if I have it or not, I tried getting an online consultation but it wanted payment for which I couldn't provide. I'm sort of looking for someone to confirm if its normal or might be breast cancer, hopefully sum1 replies. I usually would never resort to asking people online but I'm scared over these topics, I'm really scared, not even scared js worried ig. 

Idk what else to do besides type this, I'm worried mann


Any advice would be helpful, sorry if I didn't make sense in the paragraph n that cz i suck at explaining, i'm willing to give more details tho.

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat forum Mzzz although I'm very sorry for the worry your symptoms are causing.

    I know it's scary talking to your parents about something like this, but I'm sure your mum would want to know about anything that is troubling you, and do all that she can to help. You could try writing down what you want to say and have it alongside you when you speak to her, but if you really feel unable to broach this subject with her again you could try speaking with your school nurse about this instead.

    I'm not sure what online consultation you were trying to get where it involved payment, but if you are registered with a GP surgery you will be able to fill in an online consultation form for free. You are old enough to see a GP/nurse without your parents now so if you feel comfortable doing this, you could try getting an appointment to discuss this with them as well. 

    I'm sure some of our members will be along soon to offer you their thoughts and advice, but I hope this page I've found on Breast Cancer Now will help to ease your mind in the meantime.

    We're thinking of you Mzzz and will have our fingers crossed everything will be o.k.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Mzzz,

    Please don't let the fact that your Mum dismissed your symptoms last time, stop you from speaking to her again. As I said in another post to you, it is unusual for someone of your age to have cancer, but sadly it is not impossible. Tell her what you learned at school and let her know just how worried you have been about your symptoms since. I am sure that she only has your best interests at heart.

    Our moderator Steph, has given you some good advice. As she says, you are old enough to make your own appointments with your GP now, so if Mum dismisses your symptoms again, this is another way to proceed. I have been through 2 bouts of breast cancer and know how scary the wait for test results can be. It is so much easier to cope with when you have someone with you, so I would advise you to try and persuade your Mum. Here's hoping that it turns out to be nothing serious.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Mzzz

    With anything that doesn't feel right or luck right, please get in checked out with the GP- even if it means going on your own.

    Please ring the surgery this week if you're able (you're on half term?) and get yourself an appointment- they're usually very speedy with things like this- if you ring just after 8am you can get a same day appointment, usually.

    Do you have a close relationship with your Mum, whereby you can show her your concerns, rather than just tell her?

    Hopefully, you'll be absolutely fine, BUT we never truly know until we see a Doctor. It will also put your mind at rest as living with anxiety is not nice.

    Best of luck x

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