Hello 

I had breast cancer in July 2022 

ypu can do this I look back now and forget it ever happened you will fly it and come back stronger than ever good luck love lara xxx 

Hi Jazaqua,

A very warm welcome to our forum. It sounds as if you've had a distressing year, without getting this diagnosis. I am sorry to hear about your husband and send my sincere condolences. This must have come as quite a shock to you. Don't worry if you feel over emotional since your diagnosis - we nearly all do. As Laura says, you will get through this. Treatments have improved tremendously in the past few years. I had 2 bouts of breast cancer. That was all 14 years ago and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. 

Can ask what ages your children are and how they have taken this news?

Please keep in touch and let us know how things are going and remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thankyou for replying . They are 27 (left home) 16 and nearly 12. The younger one hasn’t been told it’s cancer . He’s still raw from the death of his dad.

will approach telling him as time progresses.

my oldest internalises most things but his gf is there as well to support him.

my 16 yr old on the surface ok but im able to have more detailed chats with her.

I’ve been very angry over the weekend inside . I know that I’ve found the last 18 months very difficult as left their dad, moved house , new job, he nearly died in Feb and then May he passed away.  

im very lucky to have amazing friends but coming home with no partner to lean on has been and is very hard.

Thankyou Lara xx

Hi Jazaqua,

The last few months must have been very difficult for all of you. I have just moved house this year and I haven't recovered from that yet! I can fully understand just how hard it must be, dealing with this without a partner to discuss your emotions and fears with. I am glad to hear that you have some amazing friends - I hope that you have someone in particular that you can lean on, in the coming months.

You will feel better once you have the results of your MRI and know what your treatment plan is. It is good to hear that your 27 year old can discuss his emotions with his girlfriend.  Your 16 year old will know exactly what is entailed, but should be fine, as long as you keep communication channels open between the two of you. There is really no point in telling your 12 year old, until you start your treatment. The more positive you can be about the outcome, the better he is likely to cope with it. You might find it useful to let his teachers know about your diagnosis, so that they can see that he is coping with this at school. If he is having difficulty, the school can provide counselling for him, which might help.

Anger is one of the many different emotions, that most of us feel after a cancer diagnosis.

Please keep in touch and let us know how your MRI goes. Just a heads up about treatment - you are likely to feel even more tired, once treatment starts, but you will get through it.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hello again. I completely lost where I’d posted.

mri showed borderline lymph nodes. Whilst waiting for the ultrasound and biopsies for that , I was put on tamoxifen. This followed from hospital MDT meeting. Had two weeks on this and saw oncology yesterday (13th). I’ve to have 6 months of chemo, beginning 4 dec. 12 weeks of EC I think and 12 weeks of a weekly injection and infusion , can’t remember what the second lot is called. Need to re read the leaflets. Pre treatment talk next week then pre assessment week after. Also have a wig appointment on 6 dec.

had ultrasound today and rhs looks normal and took one biopsy from left side . Dr fairly confident lhs is fine but one looked ‘chunky’. 

came off tamoxifen on 13th too

what a rollercoaster….

Hi again.

lost this thread. MRI showed borderline lymph nodes. Had ultrasound and biopsy today (14tg).

Can’t get my reply to post 

Hi Jazaqua,

Here's hoping that you get the results of your ultrasound and biopsy back soon. It is good to hear that your chemo starts at the beginning of December. Was there any particular reason for stopping Tamoxifen and does your Oncologist know this?

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi thanks for replying. Oncologist told me to stop the tamoxifen prior to beginning chemo. Does that sound unusual x