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My wife has been diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer

Ashley-Dye
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Hi my wife has been diagnosed with Stage 4 stomach cancer. She was admitted 3 weeks ago as an emergency case to hospital suffering from pyloric stenosis. The exact type of cancer is in dispute between the oncologist and the gastric doctors who don't seem to care as they want the bed back. She has not eaten anything by mouth for over a month and has now had a stent put in to open up the stomach. What I would like help with is knowing anyone with a similar experience who learned how to eat again now that her feeding tube has been removed.

Any help or directions to a place here where such things are discussed would be greatly appreciated

Thankyou

  • Offline in reply to Ashley-Dye

    Simon had an ulcer at the start as well (chemo seemed to heal it I guess!) so that does sound similar. I asked about immunotherapy at the start but his oncologist said it wasn't the right treatment, I can't remember why not now to be honest. 

    Wow, I'm surprised Simon didn't do the same! He would get very frustrated while in hospital as well, it's not the easiest place to be. Hopefully your oncologist can give a bit more info next week. When does she start chemo? 

  • Offline in reply to SwimFree93

    We don't have a treatment plan yet. Hopefully next week's meeting with the oncologist will give us some answers.

    Thanks for the replies. It's such a relief to talk to someone in a similar position. May I ask if you have found others on this chat line with similar experiences? I hope we can keep in touch.

  • Offline in reply to Ashley-Dye

    Aw that's a horrible time, waiting for things to happen is the worst. 

    Yeah I've found a woman on here who's husband is a similar age and is stage four, and a couple of people on Reddit as well. You're the first I've met who's affected by stomach cancer though. It definitely helps having people to talk to.

  • Offline in reply to SwimFree93

    Thankyou Laura

    I have a few more questions I'd like to ask about you and your husband's experience so far but I'm conscious of the time this all takes up. During the day and sometimes the night as well my focus is entirely on Susan so I know you may be in a similar position. We have good friends who help out a lot with lifts and other stuff but no children and our siblings are not in a position to help much.

  • Offline in reply to Ashley-Dye

    That's good that you've got supportive friends, it makes all the difference. 

    Feel free to ask me anything, it helps me to feel like I'm helping other people as well! I'll send you a message on here. 

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