I'm so sorry to hear. I lost my dad nearly 10yrs ago to lung cancer. It's a rollercoaster what you as a family will be going through. I was upset and couldn't sleep at night, angry at the thought of losing him. I was only 23 at the time. The hardest thing is to be there but be there with her. In the nicest way make it an adventure that you can both travel down. I would recommend if she is well enough to go away for a short break and take photographs of you all so you have something to remind yourself of her in her good life not what she will 'become'. I wish I could say it will get easier but as you said in your reply to HMC your mum wants to carry on as normal. She will probably want to feel normal and enjoy herself as much as possible. Treat her as normal but also try approach the horrible conversations that you don't want. Best question I ever asked my dad was "was he scared" it was about half way before he passed but it showed me that he was but wasn't at the same time. It gave me strength. I created a lot of good memories with my dad before he died but still miss him. I hope this helps. Stay strong

I'm so sorry to hear. I lost my dad nearly 10yrs ago to lung cancer. It's a rollercoaster what you as a family will be going through. I was upset and couldn't sleep at night, angry at the thought of losing him. I was only 23 at the time. The hardest thing is to be there but be there with her. In the nicest way make it an adventure that you can both travel down. I would recommend if she is well enough to go away for a short break and take photographs of you all so you have something to remind yourself of her in her good life not what she will 'become'. I wish I could say it will get easier but as you said in your reply to HMC your mum wants to carry on as normal. She will probably want to feel normal and enjoy herself as much as possible. Treat her as normal but also try approach the horrible conversations that you don't want. Best question I ever asked my dad was "was he scared" it was about half way before he passed but it showed me that he was but wasn't at the same time. It gave me strength. I created a lot of good memories with my dad before he died but still miss him. I hope this helps. Stay strong

Thank you for your advice and I'm sorry for your loss especially at such a young age. I'm angry at the thought my 5 year old sons heart is going to break and iv got to try be strong for him while mine is also breaking. His Grandma is is everything. Just want the world to stop spinning for awhile and pause time but I know that's not a option x

I completely understand how you feel. I have a 2yr old and 8yr old now. 3 yrs ago I was diagnosed myself with testicular cancer stage 1 seminoma and given the all clear. On Wednesday I was informed via phone consultation that a screening has detected an abnormal lymph node on lymph left lung so I'm back at square 1 trying to stay happy whilst my wife and I are in panic mode with the what if it's back. Our 8yr knows but the huge fear is what you're going through being the situation for me. Time will tell for me. 

It's not easy telling children but in a perverse way knowing it's going to happen can make it easier than it being sudden and unexpected. You will find you are grieving already at the knowledge that your mum is dying. Stay strong and make those precious memories it will make it easier for all of you. Smile all day but don't be afraid to show your tears. Speak to other family and friends. X

I am so sorry to hear what your going through and I hope everything stays positive news for you and your family. Thank you for your reply it's very much appreciated especially with everything you have going on right now. Sending you lots of positive healing vibes. You got this!!! x

I have a similar situation with my dad and it’s ok to cry and ok to smile. It’s devastating seeing him a shadow of his energetic self and the impact it’s having on my mum. We also have a young son who loves his grandad. My world is spinning too and my thoughts are with you. Sending love x

Thoughts are with you and your family x

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm finding a small comfort in knowing I'm not alone in this and my feelings are perfectly normal. Making future plans seem to be so hard especially when I know she won't be in them. Thinking of you and your family also x 

Thank you xxx It is so difficult, I keep trying to think about the now and the time we do have and not the future as when I think about the future it’s so upsetting. Take care and thank you for talking x

Thank you, sorry to hear about your dad. I hope what I said in a reply to OP can help you too. X

Thank you, it did help. Sometimes I find myself not knowing to to say, or not say. Sending you kind thoughts and wishes x

It's not easy. Try to stay positive create a network friends that you can release your emotions into if you need to as well. It does help, mine were 280miles away but always on the end of the phone when I needed to release. Forever grateful to them even now as I undergo the tests for a second time myself. X