My partner has terminal cancer and I'm starting to become overwhelmed & I feel useless.. I'm doing all I can for him..I cant get him to talk about his end of life plan which is understandable but its really needed. I'm not sure what to do.
I am so sorry to hear about your partner's terminal cancer diagnosis. It must be such a difficult time for you and it's normal to feel overwhelmed and powerless when faced with a terminal diagnosis. There are also those difficult end of life questions you need to address and it can be understandably so hard to get your loved one to engage with that - perhaps you could try and ask your GP or the nurses looking after him some advice on how best to handle these tricky questions, how to bring them up without triggering deep anxiety in him.
You will find useful information on our website for Family, Friends and Caregivers - you will find in there some tips on how best to support someone with cancer without forgetting crucially to also look after yourself which can be easy to forget. Our website also has useful information on care planning with advice on making decisions about a terminally ill patient's future care. I hope this helps a little and that you will hear from the insights of other community members who have also looked after a terminally ill loved one and sometimes hearing from their stories and experiences can be of great comfort and help.
We're thinking of you and your partner during this tough time.
