Hello Pj123, 

This is truly heart-breaking to read. It must be really hard for you to know that he only has a few months left and him not knowing and feeling like you don't want to be the one who tells him. It's really hard to know what to do in a situation like this - perhaps you could talk to the doctor who told you the news and ask for advice on how best to tell him. It's so difficult too to find the right words to talk to children and teenagers about this. I wanted to share with you information from our website on talking to children about cancer. Macmillan also have a section on talking to children and teenagers which may be of interest to you and you could also talk to your GP for more specialised advice about talking to your son who has autism and ADHD as children with autism can find change hard and you may therefore need to bear this in mind when talking to him. I would suggest you get in touch with  The National Autistic Society who I am sure will have more information for you on helping children prepare for change.

Other members of our forum may have been through something similar before and I hope that they will be along shortly to share their experiences with you. We're thinking of you during this difficult time and I hope that you have managed to have some quality time today for Easter with your husband and soulmate. We are here for you anytime you need to talk to others who understand what you are going through. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator