Hello everyone, my name is Col ,  I have a sister recently diagnosed with cancer,. Firstly diag was ovarian, then cyst...and now small cels on lung.   It all began 8th December 2023 when sister began to have abdom swelling, after a GP appointment visit, we myself and sister were advised to go to nearest A&E for a emergency scan.  After a few blood tests, general obs , bp, ecg etc  my sister was admitted to a ward the same evening.

Since then , my sister had telephone txt messages, letters, tel calls 3 or 4 each day for tests which we attended.

Sister has currently the following symptoms and diagnosed with asicites (Abdom Fluid) , kidney problems , vast weight loss, and after 3 CT scans hosp found a cyst , white mass also filled with fluid.  Currently abdo and cyst has been drained.  my sister spent 1 week in a hospital for tests and scans,  then discharged home.   Then after only 2 days home received telephone call and appointment letters for admissions to another different hospital , which she spent 9 days as a patient, for tests and more scans during beginning January.   After this was again discharged for 4 days then recieved another appointment letter for admission to another different hospital , which she has spent 9 days and was discharged on Thursday of this week.

After all this my sister was told all the antibiotics given (IV) in hospital for an infection she has , still remains in her body,  We were told basically sister is to weak for any surgery, and chemo is not a option due to her current serious health conditions and weight loss, which they said would be fatal anyway if attempted chemo.   So sister is now terminal with no treatment options open and i am sitting in my sisters home now , where i have been alone for 11-12 weeks watching my sister slowly die , day by day , night by night.

I have a mum but is aged 84, and is finding all this too upsetting and unable to sit with me more then a hour or so.  

We myself and sister, my mum have not been told the amount of time sister has remaining,  and honestly we would prefer not to know.   My sister is the only person involved in this awful time , that has not shown any emotion at all. 

Sister does kind of stare and looks as if thinking a lot but has not cried.... I just cant stop crying, for me its like great waves of emotion hitting me unexpectedly.

Sorry need to end here and go