Hi I'm really sorry to hear what you're both going through ,sounds like you're having the worst of times and I'm not surprised you're very stressed , I've heard people on here say Maggie's is a very good organisation if you have one in your area or if not you could speak to them on the phone also MacMillan cancer support and I'm sure they can help sort out any Financial worries  and other things so I would give them a call and see if there's anything they can help you with .