The end or the beginning

Hi, I recently lost my dad to oesophagus cancer. We have the BRCA 2 gene mutation.  

He was diagnosed in Sept and died 30th Dec. His funeral was last Thursday. 

He was the most kind, caring and wonderful person I've ever known but he suffered terribly at the end. It was a real battle with hospital admission, medicating him and he suffered so much pain. 

I have joined this chat to try to work through how I am feeling and reflect back in a safe space. 

  • Hi K8lzy,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and that things were difficult with your dad's treatment. Hopefully in time these more negative parts will fade a little, and you can continue to reflect on and remember all the positive memories - it sounds like you were very close.

    I'm glad that you have found the forum - as you say, it is a safe space to write things down and to reach out to others, many of whom will have similar experience to share and will understand. I hope that it can be helpful for you at this time, and whenever you need it.

    Hopefully you also have others around you for support and to speak to. If ever you feel you'd like to explore some additional support, have a look at Cruse, who offer a number of resources and also a helpline.

    As I say, we're always here if you need it. Hopefully you'll get some more replies soon - and do, if you want to, have a search for other relevant discussions on here (using the bar at the top of the page).

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator