Hi Gilly,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

This is always the worst part of any cancer journey - the unknown is a scary place to be. Even though this is not the news that either of you want, it becomes easier to cope with once you know exactly what you are dealing with. I hope that he gets his chest scan soon and that it hasn't spread. I know that it's hard not to do, but stay away from google and don't look too far ahead for now. Just take things one day at a time, or even hour by hour if need be. Keeping busy helps the time to pass, whether this is with a pastime or work. It is often more difficult for family to deal with a loved one's cancer diagnosis, than it is for the person who has it. Write down any questions you both have, for when you see the consultant. I always bring 2 copies of my questions to all appointments. While I ask the questions, my hubby writes down the answers, as we only remember a small amount of any conversation, especially, if we are not conversant with all of the medical terminology.

Let yourself have a good cry now and then, as this is a good stress reliever. There is a lot of pressure on your shoulders, when you haven't told anyone yet.  It does help to talk, even if only between yourselves - make sure to keep those communication channels open.

Please keep in touch and let us know how your husband gets on with his scan. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx