My grandaughter lost her mum on her 10th  Her birthday .She is now 22.. im May her grandad died and on the day of his funeral she told family she had progressive cancer.   Its now September and she has not yet started treatment.  She cant say where the cancer is and has now said she has 5 months to live..   i cant sleep. I cry several times a day. I dont believe her... i spoke to her dad for the first time since my daughters funeral and he said its all lies.  She has now shaved her head and uses crutches to get around.. I was meant to meet her today but im so upset i cant go as i feel too emotional..  Her mum committed suicide due to bad mental pronlems and i feel my grandaughter is starting to suffer from the same.. what can i do and how do i ask her without alienating her ..