Why?

My grandaughter lost her mum on her 10th  Her birthday .She is now 22.. im May her grandad died and on the day of his funeral she told family she had progressive cancer.   Its now September and she has not yet started treatment.  She cant say where the cancer is and has now said she has 5 months to live..   i cant sleep. I cry several times a day. I dont believe her... i spoke to her dad for the first time since my daughters funeral and he said its all lies.  She has now shaved her head and uses crutches to get around.. I was meant to meet her today but im so upset i cant go as i feel too emotional..  Her mum committed suicide due to bad mental pronlems and i feel my grandaughter is starting to suffer from the same.. what can i do and how do i ask her without alienating her ..

  • Hi CeeGee,

    Firstly, welcome to Cancer Chat.

    This sounds like a very difficult and complicated situation, and if there is any suspicion of it not being truthful then I imagine that is hard to deal with.

    It's hard to advise fully without knowing about the relationships involved, such as you with her and also her dad with her. Hopefully you are able to get more understanding about what is going on soon.

    It sounds like you have been through a lot, so please be sure to look after yourself. We are always here for support on the forum if ever you need it - it is a safe space to write things down and to reach out to others.

    If ever you feel like there is any imminent danger or if you simply want to talk things through regarding the suicidal issues you mentioned, you can always speak to Samaritans. They are available 24/7 on the freephone number 116 123.

    Hopefully you will also receive some more replies to your post here soon.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator