I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's recent diagnosis of kidney cancer. It's naturally difficult news to hear and to now be waiting for further information about the changes that have been noted on his brain scan, well it's understandable that you're feeling terrified and worried.
For many people this period of waiting and uncertainty can be the hardest time. The unknown can be a scary prospect to face and often peopple feel that once they have a full diagnosis that things are a little easier to bear. Has the team given you an indication of when you may have more news or what the next steps are in this process? Hopefully you won't have to wait too long for answers.
In regards to telling your children, I think that most members here would agree that a lot will depend on how old they are. It may be that if your children are younger you decide to wait until you have more information so that you can try to answer some of the inevitable questions that will come with news like this. If your children are now adults then it may be that telling them sooner will provide another source of support for both you and your husband. What I will also add is that children, or any age, often pick up when something is not quite right at home/with their parents, so it may well be that they already suspect something.
Here at Cancer Research UK we have a team of dedicated nurses that you can call to talk with if you think it may help. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, informtion and support they can. If you'd like to chat with them they're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040.
Keep in touch Hbart. Let us know how you're both doing and we'll try our best to support you at this difficult time.
Sending you both my best wishes, Jenn Cancer Chat moderator
