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Hi guys so my name is Dina and I have stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to the bones etc but I want to say I’m more then this I’m more then cancer if though it may not seem like it it I have been on this journey a while now and it’s been a hard one plus going on with other life dramas my besties friend who looked after me through it has moved to Canada and I think that mentally got be worse then the cancer I know that sounds strange but he was my life we talk most days but not the same plus sometime my figures hurt from the cancer and I don’t want to type but let be honest it’s not the same but what I want to know is how do I make friends with cancer as I don’t look the same as I did before hair and always wearing my hat as wigs make me ich so I’m the girl with the hat all year round one of course I’m different but friends have never came easy I joined friend website and it’s was strange felt like dating or looking for a date but a friend and I got to say I’m qui unique I love crafts shopping and other stuff that a newly 30 years old probably would not be interested in but boy that felt good to say 

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    Well hello Dinavaughn,I think you have come to the right place for a chat . Think most of us are in the same boat . I had bilateral mastectomies last September,lymph  clearance on left side ,followed by chemo . All went well ,went bald and didn’t bother with wig ,had some nice hats .All finished five months ago ,have a head of curly hair now ! Never had curls before ! 
    You find out who your real friends are when you are in our situation and some who you never expected to be so good really ,suddenly appear and are supportive.
    Maggies is a good centre ,if you have one .They do different things ,like tai chi and exercise ,as well as just chattering.,I am sure there are arts and crafts groups there too.There are social workers there too if you need help with Blue Badge or anything else ,like certain benefits you might be entitled to. Everyone is friendly and welcoming, not pushy . You might meet like minded people there too. 
    Keep in touch xx

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    Hey  rumple  I’m glad it whet well we need to here good news yes I know about magies I used to go all the time love the chemo curls  when I first had cancer and my hair started to grade I was shocked as I had mostly straight with a tad bit wavy hair I actually liked it it’s not so much loading the hair as it just hair right but it was more about the psyical part how I looked  not that I’m vain or think I’m the prettiest girl in the world but I did look a lot better with the hair and sometimes meeting people it’s harder if you don’t feel like you I got used to the new me yes I lost lots of people including family because of it and another best friend but tba I think she was jealous that my other friend look after me me so much but that was because we lived closer and he worked from home it’s hard to find people to chat to even if they have cancer sometimes I find people that have it are slightly judgemental  but maybe I haven’t find the right people I mean just because we all have cancer don’t mean we are going to get along but it’s nice to just chat 

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