Whoever said that is very wrong and cruel . Grief is a very personal thing and you cannot put a timing on it . I’m still grieving my mum and it’s 33 years ago! As I said you never get over it , you just learn to live around it . Please give Maggie’s a ring today . Hard to think past this , but you will get better , it’s just time . Suppressing your feelings after a bereavement does no good , it always comes back and bites you on the bum ! But you have done the right thing reaching out on here and seeing your Gp . Sending a hug x

Hi Lexe just get through each day one day at a time..there is no timescale for greif...I lost my daughter to a cancerous brain tumour and thought I was coping well then 6 months later my cousin also to cancer...that was the point where I broke..I tried coping without antidepressants but eventually started on them and now im a lot brighter..not every day is a good day but I don't allow it to bring me down I give myself some tlc and start again the next day etc...it will eventually ease..you just need to give yourself TLC...at the moment self care its not selfish its necessary...never feel guilty your mum wanted to try and spare you..xx have hope for the future and when you feel better do something anything that your mum would have approved of in her memory...she's not gone totally remember you are part of her and in your children n grandchildren 

There is no right way to grieve, its very individual and you do you.  Remember to give yourself some self care, do whatever it is you like.  Book yourself in for a relaxing massage if you like that kind of thing, a walk n nature just "to be", relaxing long bath with some essential oils, whatever you find relaxing. Cry if you want to and it is totally OK to not be OK. Phone one of the charities for a chat, they will just let you talk if you want to. Ignore people who tell you how you must be, they have no idea. Keep talking on here if you would like and if you want to tell us about your mum and nan, we will listen.

Lexe,to grieve is normal and nothing selfish about it . It’s good to talk about how you are feeling and airing your emotions .People are all different and deal with loss in many different ways .My mother died when I was only 17 ,I found it really hard at the time ,but started a diary ,just writing my thoughts down and it did help .

All the best R xx