Thank you for your words. 

it’s like we can see her disappearing before our eyes, but we’re getting very little info from medics. 

She began to feel unwell in December, and was told she very likely had cancer again (she had it 7 years ago) but then 8 weeks later had a letter to say she didn’t. 

But we could see she was seriously unwell. 

Went back to Drs and then was told she had stomach lining secondaries from breast cancer. But in all, that means for 8 months it’s gone untreated and now (2weeks ago) she’s been given oral chemo. 

But since December she’s gone from 91/2 stone to 6 stone 8. 

I feel as though I’m going mad. Like my eyes/my common sense are telling me how desperately ill she is, but by the lack of support/input the experts almost seem to suggest it’s life as normal. 

So then I hate myself for being so negative but then have to remind myself that in fact I’m being realistic and honest with myself.

But there’s no plain speaking going on. It’s like we’re not really being told anything. But the woman I know has gone already.