Hi, this is the first time posting. My name is Tracy and I am caring for my 84-year-old father who has throat cancer, prostate, watch and white and has just been diagnosed with stage three rectal cancer.
While I try to be as supportive as possible and attend your appointment with him, it is becoming increasingly difficult as he doesn’t want to know anything about what is going on with him or speak to nurses or doctors. He relies on me.

He has just been given the choice off, trying for an operation, but that would mean if his throat allows with the growth. He ruled that out as it was in six hour plus operation.

The hospital told me that he could have radiation, but he would need an MRI scan and he had walked out of one before.

I explained all of this to him and he didn’t want to speak about it. I had to keep after a few days pushing him for some kind of answer. I honestly think that he should just leave it alone and manage the best be can, but he has now decided that he wants to try and have a MRI scan again and he wants to try and go for radiation treatment.

I honestly don’t understand his thinking on this, and every time I try and explain what the treatment would involve. He tries to take his fingers in his ears are not listen.

These cancers have now been going on for about three years from the first diagnosis with his throat. I am finding it increasingly difficult to work with him and as I am with him 24 seven, I can become short tempered.

Is there anybody on here that could give me any advice on a stage three rectal cancer and a 84-year-old, who is not in the best of health.