Hi all,

I’ve come here as I feel speaking to people who have been through similar circumstances will help.

my mum was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer in 2020, she then had operation, chemo and radiation. Things looked good for a while but then was becoming poorly, went back to Drs to be told it has metastasised in her bowel and surround fluid. They have her weeks to a couple of months due to her condition. She has lost a lot of weight and was very weak.

Since then she has stabilised and then dipped. It just so hard, she not eating much so her weight is still very low. She’s tired and fed up. I am pleased we have had this extra time but I also feel so sad that she is still suffering. My dad is her full time carer, I work full time and live away but speak every day and see them on weekends. 

I feel in times of crisis I am ok and support my family well but when it plateaus I really struggle. I am now finding it difficult to continue with work and not become overwhelmed with it. The smallest thing leads me to tears. I have had to deal with feelings of anger and guilt and it’s just so hard. I don’t know if I should try to get some time off work but then worry about needing time when she does pass. It’s just so unknown when that will be. 

I hope someone can relate and share any insights, do take care everyone.