Hi CurryFan,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and how she is dealing with it. You do not say what type of cancer she has, or how long she has had it for. She may very well be frightened and is lashing out at you, being the nearest. 

This is indeed the time to make memories while you can. It is only natural to feel frustrated, but try to be patient. We do all change when we get a cancer diagnosis and the best way to minimise this is to be able to talk about it. Would your mum consider seeing a cancer counsellor? Sometimes it is easier to speak to a stranger, than it is to family or friends.

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer and I must confess that I unintentionally, made life very difficult for my daughter, when I was first diagnosed. I had lost my mum to breast cancer and was convinced that I would go the same way. Fortunately, we have managed to rebuild our relationship and all is hunky dory again.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx