Hello Samantha 

welcome 

sorry that you find yourself here but it's a place none of us wanted to be but it's good you have come here to chat and seek help from others who have been in the same situation it's a lovely warm place and helped me so much last year when I was diagnosed in July .and now I feel I can't leave the chat it give so much to me and I want fo pass my experience to anyone I can .

I have now finished treatment for breast cancer had two operations and since November and living my life back to as it was time does really fly .

firstly you have a lot going on already without finding this out , at my first appointment I was told suspicious and a week later it was confirmed, it's such a shock but as soon as you find out details and treatment plan things fall in to place , breast cancer treatment is so advanced now .

We are all here for you to help and give you support in anyway we can massive virtual hugs to you xx ️

Hi [@laraj]‍  

Thank you so much for taking the time to write, it's very much appreciated.  You are right, once I know the plan of action I'll feel a lot more confident.

Having briefly looked at some of the posts on here this does seem like a very safe environment and love the fact that so many people are staying to support others.

Thank you and pain free, virtual hugs to you too xx

Hi Sam,

yes this whole situation is toughest of all at this early stage. We go from shock to dispair and back again. Everything feels bad and where on earth can we turn?? I remember it all as if it were yesterday yet I completed my treatment 3 years ago at the end of this month!! Life is now good. 
 

Getting your treatment plan is key. I looked upon it as 'my job'. All my appointments in my diary. Making sure I knew what would be happening when. Ask all the questions you want to. No one minds and it's a big help knowing what you are achieving as you go along. It focusses you on getting well. 
 

Talk to your gorgeous amazing husband.  (I have one of those and they DO help SO much) Tell him how it is. Hold on tight. It all helps. Talk to those you trust too. No one ought to be alone with their fears. Best to speak of them because they grow smaller when we do. This site is just wonderful too. Lean in when you feel you want to. We all know how it is. 
 

Eat well and in the weeks/months ahead put yourself first. You are going through a big deal. It's time for you to be the priority. 
 

Fur babies are such a help too!!!! Enjoy them!! 
 

I wish you well. Go steady. You will get through this. 
Kebbs x 

Thank you for taking the time to write Kebb.  Your kind and supportive words mean a lot ️ X

Hi Samantha 

how are you feeling my lovely hope you are ok 

love Lara ️

Hi Lara

Thanks so much for your message, it means a lot ️ 

I'm doing OK thanks.  Hubby went back to work today for the first time since we got the news.  He works shifts so our weekends vary throughout the month.  When I woke up today I felt a little out of sorts. Think it's starting to sink in a little and I may have been a little in shock.  The not knowing what's next is making me think too much.  I need to get my adrenaline down so that I can rest properly.  I need to get my ME under control so I can face this head on.

We've started to share the news with our family and friends and everyone has been amazing.  A friend of mine has been through breast cancer so she popped round today to give me some pointers about what to ask when we do get the appointment through. I know everyone's experiences are different, but I did find this helpful.

So all in all, feeling positive (which fortunately is my default setting) and trying not to count down the days, but make the days count  

Big hugs 

Sam x

Sam 

lovely that you are feeling positive and so good that you have a friend to talk to who's gone through it .

I totally understand what you mean when you woke up this morning, I had days I'd wake up and be high on life then the next would be is this real am I dreaming have I actually got to go through this and I promise you before I knew it it was that part of my life over and was back on the straight road the bump was gone , 

I'm sorry that you have other health issues also to combine with this but you got this Sam you can do it and you will be strong .

we are always here big hugs my lovely take care let us no how your doing if you can .

love Lara ️

Thank you Lara.  Your support means so much :love: