Hi Jamie,

I lost my mum 3 years ago, it will get more bearable. I struggle with the blues at this time of year too, please don't think you're alone going through this, I'm sure you will get a supportive experience on here.

Hello Jamie, 

I am sorry to hear that you've lost your Mum. I lost my Mum in 2016 and Dad in 2021. You've done the right thing posting on here, I've found a lot of support on here and like you said; solace from being able to speak with others going through similar situations. 
Did you have any bereavement counselling? I found that helped me after Mum. 
Remember that all your feelings are valid and it's important to feel them rather than trying to get on. Grief is an extension of love and it's clear how much love you have for your Mum. 
Here to chat should you want to, 

Dawn

Hi Jamie. I am sorry that your mum lost her fight against cancer and that your relationship has ended. I want you to know that your mum loved you most of all. She wants you to be happy and safe and secure. If this means that you don't want to go out to party then this is ok. See your closest friends, the ones who love you and have been through this with you. Keep in touch with at least one person per day. Have you thought about grief counseling and how this might help you. I was skeptical when my Dad died of a very rare sarcoma but I'm so glad my doubts didn't stop me. I feel so much better after speaking to a professional. I sought help from a charity at first and then paid for myself. I would really recommend it Jamie. I want you to make plans about what you want to do now. Do you want to travel to visit a friend in another country or try a cooking course or join the local rugby club for training. Anything as long as it's smal, simple and you can do it. Have plans helped me. When I was a bit younger I was in a relationship that broke down. I thought I was done with relationships and was for a few years. But then I met new friends and did new things and became a lighter happier person. I still remember my grief and I still get upset at missing my dad and other close relative but I can think of happy times. Missing them never stops but you can live with it without fear. You are very brave Jamie, thank you for sharing your story and I am sure that like me you will also find the love of your life when you least expect it. Now focus on you. Merry Christmas Jamie