Hi Vickit,

A very warm welcome to our forum. I am so sorry to hear about your Dad's prognosis and know just how devastating this can be. I have been through this  with my Mum and with my Father-in-law. My Father-in-law only had 5 days from his diagnosis to his death. I know how awful you and your family will feel just now, but unstead of dealing with the tragedy of this, try to enjoy what time you have left with him and help to make him as comfortable as he can be. I know that you will probably feel anger at the unfairness of it all and be asking 'Why him?', but this doesn't help matters. 

Make as many positive memories as you can. Does your Dad want to talk about how he feels, is he afraid of death, does he need to speak to someone about how he feels, do you need to talk to someone aout how you feel? There are cancer councellors who you can both speak to, which you might find helpful. Say all that you have to say to your Dad now and don't leave anything left unsaid, tell him how much you love him. You may find that this won't be so easy to do towards the end, so don't miss the opportunity.

I am sorry to sound so gloomy about this, but you will find that it helps to put a positive and pro-active slant on things for your Dad's sake, no matter how much your heart is breaking. Do you have family or friends who can support you through this?

Please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx