Hi Evamae

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. You've said your future mother in law is usually a sweet woman. It sounds like she is terribly scared and taking her emotions out on the people she cares about most. My mum was recently diagnosed with oesophageal cancer, and my family and I have been through every emotion since. I got annoyed with my mum today which I really regret. Can you talk to your fiance and his mum together, and just be really honest about how you're all feeling? I know it can be difficult, but it's best not to let things fester. If your fiance is unsure you should get married, he's probably full of all sorts of emotions too and unsure how to deal with any of them. Cancer is a horrible thing to deal with for anybody.

I hope things get better for you soon.

Holly