Hiya, from a fellow Eastender, so glad you got the right treatment without delays, take care, Violet, x

Hi I now live in a little village in Essex but was born and raised in eastend as my kids got older we moved a bit further out now a our kids are grown with kids of their own we moved to here .what are you dealing with in your illness if that's not too personal a question 

Hi.  Like you I no longer live in London.  I live in a beautful village in the west midlands with my husband, no kids.  Well, 3 years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was treated for that but 18 months later it came back.  I went through chemo last year and had all the usual treatments, but recently I have been told that it has spread, which basically means that I am now at stage 4.  I am my husband's carer because he has several life-threatening health issues, and we often joke about who is gonna fall off their perch first.  I know it is very dark humour, but it's how we deal with our situation.......with humour.  Fortunately I have not yet reached the stage where my illness has incapacitated me too much, but obviously I do worry what will happen to my husband when the time comes (which it surely will) where I am no longer able to care for him, or if I should be the one to die first...........but right now we are just enjoying the time we have left together.  Me and my husband have only been together for 8 years and someone recently said to me, "Do you feel a bit cheated that you are not going to have a lot of years with someone who has finally made you happy?"  And my reply was, "No......I feel lucky, because a few short years with the RIGHT person is better than 50 years with the wrong one".   Take care mate, and once again, so glad for you that you pulled through,  Violet, x

You sound a lot like me and my husband lol my diagnosis is none curable my husband took it bad but to be honest I think I knew so this sounds stupid but I am ok with it .told my children and older grandchildren a said they could ask me any questions and I will tell them everything but once that was out of the way I didn't want them fussing .of course they all wanted to move in to take care of me I shut them down right away .i have all my plans in place so I am happy if that makes sense .we laugh all the time and luckily we are both retired so we do what we want when we want . Still have more scans etc to find out what treatment is next  I wish you all the best and I am here for chat anytime  regards teresa 

Thanks a lot Teresa.  I don't think it sounds stupid at all, because I have exactly the same attitude........I am ok with it.  I'm not saying that I don't care that I am not going to be here as long as I would have liked to be,  but I have accepted that we are all just passing through this life and some of us have to leave sooner than others.  My husband took it very bad, just as your husband did, but we are having fun in our own quirky way............we are growing our own vegetables, and there was me, a London girl, thinking that vegetables grew on the shelves of Sainsbury's and Tesco's lol!  Anyway mate, I am sure we will be having many more chats, and likewise, I wish you all the best, Violet, x

Good afternoon violet. 
                                  Hope you are having a good day ? You made me laugh about growing your own vegetables we to did that for a while then with all the gales we had it took our green house down lol ,you talk about that try getting used to wellies being the fashion accessory lol never owned a pair in my life till we moved here .we are very rural from the front of our house you can see for miles over the fields and from the back we have the sea ,1 way into us and 1 way out it's very nice the nearest shop is a mile and half away very country lol meant to ask where in London are you from I come from commercial road / white chapel/ Bethnal Green etc went to Tower Hill primary school then onto bishop challoner secondary x

Good afternoon Teresa, I was born in Commercial Road!  Later on we moved to Islington, but I will always be an East End girl at heart.  My husband says that you can take the girl out of London but you can't take London out of the girl.  I have a view of the Malvern Hills from my kitchen window and the first time I ever saw sheep and cows up close and personal was when I went for a walk by the river severn one day.  We've got one shop in the village, and it is a lovely place to live, although I must admit it took me a few years to really settle in.  I couldn't get used to the quietness of it, after the noise and the fast pace of life in London, but I am very happy here now.  Your comment about wellies being a fashion accessory made me laugh!  I wear 'sensible' clothes now, when I discovered that walking through a muddy field in suede loafers was not a very good idea lol!  Anyway mate, it's great talking with you, chat again soon, take care, Violet, x