Hello Teresa.  First of all, you have had a terrible shock,  You need time to process what has happened to you.  I have recently been told that my cancer is at stage 4, plus I am my beloved husband's carer (my husband has several very serious life threatening health issues).  Recently, as my cancer progresses, and my husband's condition is also worsening, we have spoken about our options.........but one thing we both are agreed on is that we want to be together no matter what.  Teresa, I know that me and my husband don't have very long............but we are going to make the most of what time we have left.  I can not tell you what you should or should not do, but you and your husband love each other.............so why not stay together for as long as you can?  Hope I have been a little bit of help to you, take care mate, much love, Violet, xxx