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Hello everyone,

My name is Josh, I am 27 years old. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer (glioblastoma) in March this year. I am really struggling to come to terms with it. He had the tumor removed on 01/04 and is now 2 weeks into his radiotherapy and chemotherapy. 
 

It's all happened so quickly. He was suffering with headaches and dizziness and we just put it down to his blood pressure being high. My dad is an amazing person so full of life and not one person has a bad word to say about him, he is my protector and my best friend and I can't imagine my life without him in it. He truly is one of a kind.

 

Some days I feel positive and know my dad can beat the odds and survive for a long time, however more often than not I feel really depressed, withdrawn and feel like I lack purpose. I have suffered with anxiety and depression in the past and have been in touch with my GP, but I just wanted to check with others whether it gets easier? Will I ever be able to enjoy my life whilst my dad is going through this? I am trying so hard to be normal but it's so hard.

 

Sorry for the rant, Its hard for people to understand and I don't want to bring my family down. 

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    Hi,

    I am sorry too read your Story, I have been through this with my Dad he was 62, strong and full of life, my absolute Hero. Dad had his tumour removed he had 6 months of Chemo and 6 weeks of radiotherapy.  He was a really tough cookie, although my dad did pass away he survived nearly 5 years. Have you thought about getting some counciling? I had some as I couldn't cope.

    I am so sorry you and your family are going through this, it doesn't get easier but you will begin to accept it.

    stay positive he could beat the odds you always have hope.

    happy too answer anything that may help
     

    Kindest Thoughts Sarah 

     

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    Hey Sarah, 

    i really appreciate your reply, it does mean a lot. It's good to talk to someone who has been through something similiar, although I wish we didn't have to experience this!

     

    I am on a waiting list for counselling so hopefully that will help. I go on holiday this weekend and I really don't want to go, which sounds awful. I just feel so guilty for going enjoying myself at the moment.

     

    if you don't mind me asking, what prognosis did the doctors give to your dad? What a warrior for surviving as long as he did! 
     

    thanks again for the reply Sarah, speak soon.

    Josh

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    Hi Josh,

    I am happy for you to ask me anything, anytime either now or in years too come. I will send you a friend request on here so that you can always find me if you felt you wanted to ask me anything, and I will try to help. 

    Well Dad didn't want too know his prognosis, he felt that he wanted too live each day and do his best to beat it, after his treatment Dad had MRI scans every 6 months which were clear for a long time. Unfortunately the Scan he had in February 2021 showed it had returned, he Sadly passed away in September 2021. 
     

    I am pleased your going to talk to someone, you can always ring MacMillan aswel if it gets too much for you. 
     

    You need to get away, it's tough trying to hold it together, don't Google anything everyone is different, treatments are evolving all the time. 

    Take each day as it comes, don't think too far ahead, take a positive out of each day. 
     

    Kind Regards sarah 
     

     

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