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Is my mom dying?

Lone_Lupo
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Hey everyone, 

My mom is diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, she has completed her rounds of chemotherapy and was still doing Immunotherapy. However, this week she had an x-ray and it turns out that her right lung has collapsed, as well as this she has an infection and fluid in her left lung. I have been reasonably positive this past week but today i had a bit of a gut feeling that this might not be something she can recover from. 

Can someone please help? id like some honesty at this point in time about what they think is going to happen. i am currently not allowed to visit her due to covid restrictions and they said that i would not be allowed to visit unless in exceptional circumstances...

Can someone give me an honest outlook on how this is going to turn out? 

 

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    Hi

    I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I can understand the fear, hope, frustration and confusion behind every word. I don't have an answer to your question. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone...

    I live in the UK, my mom is in Iran. A year and a half ago she was diagnosed with widespread ovarian cancer. I haven't been able to see her due to circumstances, and I have been asking these questions looking for honesty and hoping to hear the good news...

    I hope the very best for your beloved mom, and yourself.

    I hope you get to have many good days ahead and enjoy every moment of being together. 

    Stay strong.
    Parinaz

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    Hi there,

     

    Sorry to hear about your mum's condition.

    My dad was also diagnosed with stage 4 cancer - small cells.

     

    I was unaware how serious it was and believed he would recover, at least out of the hospital. Had I known better, I would have spent more time with him.

    Sadly from the time they found out - when he was relatively ok - he was gone 2 months later.

     

    My dad took all the treatments, but his body was too far damaged, he spent his last weeks in a nearby hospice, decidedly accepted it was better without carrying on with the chemo side effects.

     

    To me he seemed ok, but he was holding it in. I arrived at the hospice the day after, and he had detoriorated heavily. When I saw him it was hard to understand the sudden change, whilst instinctively realising the severity in which I saw him.

     

    I wish the truth and extent of the illness had been revealed to me so I could spend more time.

     

    Your doctor should know about the likely prognosis, I hope you mum recovers friend.

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    Hi Regan, 

    That must have been really hard for you, our parents often try to make things look better than things actually are. 

     

    It must have come as quite a shock to you after so little time. Its making me appreciate that the time I have with my mom left even more. 

     

    If you fancy chatting about it a bit more or maybe even being friends just message me :) 

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