Hi love, I'm so sorry you are watching such a horrible long drawn out death and no I'll not mention God, because at the moment he is not helping you.  I have watched my Dad die slowly in hospital over five months and my Mum from terrible dementia and it is heart breaking to see.  You're right animals  would not suffer like this but humans are left to die in an undignified way and there is no advice that I can offer but to say that you are doing everything  that you possibly can to be there for Mum and Dad, such a lovely brave person who loves them and hates to see them suffer.  I hope for you all that it ends soon.  My Mum held her hands out and said, I'm coming, wait for me, they told us it would be hours so I went home for some respite, she died that night, no one was with her, but I had done my best and we have to forgive ourselves for thinking we could have done more because we can only bear so much suffering.  I'm sending my love and thoughts your way.  Carol x 

Thank you so much. Honestly, I'm so worried about my mum. She has seen her mum and dad die, but they were quick and peaceful,  not like this. She is worried it will haunt her but I've said we need to focus on the positive things and how fab dad was and the things he did and said and the horrific images will fade eventually.  

Hi love, you are completely right with your attitude to how to deal with the horrible memory of Dad's last days.  It will take time but make sure there are happy photos around you of him and let Mum grieve in her own way.  I did learn to erase the awful memories and there were more good times than bad so they eventually take over.  I hope you all have some peace soon.  Much love, Carol x 

Hi, Our Dad is hopefully going on a driver this morning,and whilst we don't really know the future of that,we are hoping it will take his pain from his cancer and dementia away and let him go peacefully. For the past few days since he's been home we've been giving him end of life 'care'. Unfortunately it's taken an age for the district nurses to catch up but hopefully that situation will improve now even if only in the sense that dad gets sufficient pain relief. In the meanwhile,we in the family have been all over the situation to help mum. For 4 nearly 5 days, dad's been suffering badly only getting pain relief from patches and tablets (A nightmare getting tablets into him).At night we've been taking turns to stay over while mum tries to sleep. Those of you in the same situation will know why there is much use of the word 'hope' in this message. Hope not of improvement,but an ending for our Dad. Stay strong.

I'm replying a month late to this as I have only just joined this forum. I noticed you said your dad was given days to live. I really hope he is peaceful now. It's hard to understand why the good ones suffer. My dad has been given six months to live and I pray when the time comes it's peaceful. You have to be so strong in times like this. I'm dreading the day when it comes. My dad is 62. 
 

sending lots of love to you and your family. 
 

My dad is 64 and has been given weeks. Absolutely heartbroken I'm so anxious and don't want him to  suffer but I'm so scared of losing him forever

I know exactly how you feel. My dad doesn't know he's been given six months. I think that's what bothers me too. I don't want him to suffer 

I'm so sorry. If you ever need to chat you can friend request me as we are both going through a terrible time