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My World is Falling apart

Jennymum1980
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I'm 41, I've two Boys 6 & 2 and I am BESIDE MYSELF.

 

Mum was diagnosed with Mouth Cancer a Year ago now. Last Xmas she had an extensive operation and radiotherapy. She was given the all clear. We were so very happy.

A few weeks ago a new lump appeared on her Jaw, which is growing rapidly. A few days ago we found out the Cancer is back and theres really nothing they can do as another operation would be removing a third of her face, shed not be able to speak, eat or drink again (a feeding tube would be needed) and so this is NOT an option for her. The only option now is immunotherapy, which will work for a short time only before the Cancer takes her. I have no Siblings.  Shes my Best friend in the world, and has seen my boys  almost daily since they were born. She cant bear the thought of missing them growing up. I'm in total head spin. Completely devistated. I cant picture life without her ..... whatever will I do?

 

 

  • Hi Jennymum1980,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of the situation with your mum - this sounds incredibly difficult and I can only imagine how tough it must be. I'm sure it must be a lot to process.

    For now at least, take things a day - or less - at a time. Try to break it down into small next steps and dealing with the here and now. Talk through any questions or concerns with your mum's medical team, to ensure you have all the information you need to help understand what's next.

    You mention you don't have any siblings - hopefully you have other friends and family to speak to for support. Either way, we're always here on the forum if you need it, and it can often be helpful to reach out to others. I'm sure there will be others here who have been through or are going through something similar.

    And if you need any additional support, have a look at Macmillan and Maggie's, who both have various resources to help.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Jennymum1980 I am afraid i have nothing helpful to say. But I am sending you love.

    It might be hard for you both to do, but maybe get her to write your boys some cards for significant life events that you can keep and give them when the time comes. 

     

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