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Uncle dying from Oesophageal Cancer. V.tough to watch

Jocosser
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My Uncle has deteriorated he has gone off food not drinking low blood pressure. He's talking about death, shouting in his sleep. In fact he's sleeping lots. 
it's so sad, I watched my dad die of lung cancer but it doesn't get any easier. 
my Uncle is 83 I'm his next of kin and he's my last living  relative. The fear in his eyes when he has a turn. Watching him get weaker and weaker each day it breaks my heart. I've had to take a day away because I'm feeling I'll I'm heart broken. I stay brave infront of him. I hope he doesn't suffer much longer he doesn't deserve too

  • Hi Jo, 

    I just came across your post and wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you at this difficult time and sending all my strength and support your way.

    I know it must have been tough to take that day away but try not to feel guilty about this as it's really important to take some time to look after yourself as you need to be cared for too. 

    Our community are here for you Jo and I'm sure some of our members will be along soon to offer their support as well.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hey jocosser, 

    Thought I'd come in . No wise word of wisdom to offer, sorry  but hey , my goodness you are really in a horrible place right now, emotionally shredded, with very good reason.

    Bereavment is one thing, but what comes before is often more traumatic. Does your Uncle have a team involved?? Would some sitters/ careers be around just to give you a break?? District or McMillan nurses???
    As for taking some time out - good for you- you need it and should take it.

    Maggies centres are good places to go, even if it 'just' for a good ball- a very therapeutic 'thing'.

    But you know, you are not 'not coping' ( whatever coping looks like) , you are a very normal human, experiencing VERY normal human emotions in very distressing circumstances.

    Best wishes and take care

    HILTS.

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    Hi sorry to hear about your uncle. As it is I'm waiting for the same diagnosis. 

    I know its not a good end and dreading the out come. Sending strength. 

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