Hi Amrc & greetings from a sunny London.

My ability to get out and about has deteriorated dramatically since my diagnosis in April (bile duct cancer). I'm now unsteady on my legs and often too tired to even contemplate leaving the house. 
 

The thing is, it's irrelevant whether I still consider that I have quality of life (I do, but that may well change). What matters is whether your Dad feels he has sufficient quality of life. Surely he's the only person who knows the answer and whose opinion matters?

I hope this response doesn't come across as critical in any way. It really wasn't meant to. 

Very best wishes to your Dad, to you and to your Mum. 
 

Hi sorry to read about your dad.

I'm currently on a 3 weekly chemo program and I get 1 good week where I can go out however I lose part of that week as have to isolate after my covid test which is so frustrating. Mid Aug I will go onto weekly chemo for 3 weeks and the 4th week no drug. I have no idea how it will affect me. I do get very low as want to be doing things, I don't see people as family don't live close and friends all busy working so my days drag. My partner works long hours and for his own mental health I have insisted he continues with his interests. He just had 2 nights away for golf it was my good week so I was hsppy for him to go. He thoroughly enjoyed it. He also practices in a band once a week.

Can your mum be doing things without your dad so she it gives her a break.

Only your dad can decide if he has a quality of life and if having the chemo is worth it. It is very difficult to go through treatment as people don't understand how your feeling etc. 

Wishing you all the best in this difficult time.

Louise 

Hi thank you so much for replying It certainly is hard for everyone involved.You sound like a very strong person and I really do pray that you get the outcome you are looking for after going through chemotherapy...it is so hard to watch someone going through it so I can only imagine what its like physically and mentally to actually be the one going through it.Mam will do stuff on her own but then we all hear about it and having to do everything herself. She lives about 40 minutes away from me so unfortunately I wouldnt be able to see them ever day with work and kids They were supposed to be going away with other family members for 3 days but I really don't think hes up to it so I suggested maybe she go.on her own and dad could come down to my house for the couple of days so well see I suppose shes saying no at the moment but maybe shell change her mind.I even asked her would she move closer to me and my sister because we live close ,but she wont.Id love to be able to see and help them everyday