How do I help dad cope with short life expectancy

Hi everyone. 

My dad beat bowel cancer and managed 5 years cancer free. 

He now has secondary cancer in his liver. We were told its terminal last year. However, I asked the dreaded question today after being told the tumours are growing again. 

We  were told dad has 2 years max if the chemo works, possibly 6 months if not. 

I'm devastated. But worst of all I font know what to say or do. I didn't know what to say to my own dad.

He's so upset and held tears back the whole way home. 

I know he just wanted to get home and cry. 

How on earth do I deal with this? How do I keep his spirits up and make the most of his time. 

Please, any advise anyone has will be gratefully received. 

 

Thanks in advance everyone. 

  • Hey, I just saw your message and had to respond. My Dad is currently at home receiving end of life treatment, it was only 3 weeks ago we were told about his diagnosis. He has advanced liver cancer that's spread from the cancer in his esophogeus. Me and my family are devastated, my father has been home for 5 days and has declined significantly daily. We know we don't have much time left. All I can do is say how sorry I am that you have to go through this because as I'm going through this now my heart hurts so much but we are staying strong for him. We want him out of pain and at rest, it's crazy to think a month ago we celebrated his birthday and now we are dealing with this. Keeping you in my prayers and hope your Father manages to pull through as long as possible, and be mindful of yourself and your health through this process too. Nobody is ready to hear this about their parents or any family member for that matter, but stay as strong as you can and make as many memories as possible ️