My mum really ill with Terminal cancer

Hi my name barrie and I'm 32..

I got told couple months back that my mum has stage 4 terminal cancer she bin doing really well last month or so but begin to lose alot weight and stopped eating and drinking its bin hard on the family is it right for me to not being able cry at all as now I bin told she getting put on a syringe driver when she gets worse is that going kill my mum off as I don't want that to happen.

 

Thank you barrie 

 

  • Wow Barrie all I can say is so sorry I went through this exact same thing from Sunday to yesterday afternoon. Oh my goodness you are going to need some strength to get through these next few days. It's going to be a not very nice change infront of your eyes but you can do it. The syringe driver is the best thing for her you don't want her to feel anxious and worried. It makes them seem so much more peaceful and you will see that. Stay strong you will need to be kind to your heart and head over the next few days. Say everything you need, hold her hand and open the window up for her when you think the time is near XXX 

  • Hi, same with me. My Mum is a good age but still difficult to see her going along this journey. I took her to the hairdresser just three weeks ago and her decline has been so rapid and distressing. Lost so much weight, not eating, extremely weak. I feel that my emotions are on hold to get me through, I wonder if I'll be in bits closer to the end.

    Best wishes to you barrie, Peace be with both our Mum's. 

  • Hi 

    My mum also diagnosed with Ovarian cancer almost a year ago.

    I am 35, living far away from her, on a different continent. I haven't seen her for a year now and due to the pandemic, I still can't make it to my country to see my mum. 

    I even don't know which stage of cancer my mums is, as I am not sure if they tell me everything about it. 

    I hate myself for not being with her at this time that she needs me. I hate that it happened. I don't know if I will be able to ever see her. I don't remember our last minutes together in details, as I never knew it would be last.

    It is taking over me. I can't cope with it.

    I have always been so close to my mum. Sharing everything with her first. I don't know what will I do without her!

    Sorry, I can't find anything to say to help...

     

  • I'm so sorry to hear this as I was same with everything going on in the world I was miles away from my mum I only returned last month n my mum only has hours to live I got that chance to say goodbye but I feel like everyone saying I should be there with her but that isn't what my mum would ever want for me as it would hunt me but will she know I'm always going love her 

  • Thank you so much it is hard at this moment of time as being told she got hours live but she carrying on is hard to hear seeing my sisters and dad getting upset I seen her to say my last goodbye but am I wrong to not want to be with her before she passes as I don't think I could do it as it ain't what she would want from me . She had syringe driver put in 2 days ago