I'm very sorry about your mum. My mum passed away in 2017 just a few weeks after being diagnosed with a rare cancer. It was very hard but I spent as much time as I could with her before she passed away.Try to take care of yourself and just take each day as it comes. I expect you are in shock which isn't surprising
Be with your mum as much as you can and don't leave anything unsaid.
Sadly my mum passed away in January and by the time the hospital allowed me and my brother to visit she couldn't speak or write but was with us mentally. She also didn't get to see my dad who was in a rehabilitation place. So I had to hold the phone to her whilst he talked. It was the most heartbreaking thing ever they were married 61 years. Even tho there was the no touch rules I held and kissed my mum and I'm so glad I did because when I was allowed to see her a couple of days later she was end of life and asleep all the time.
Life does carry on albeit its very hard but you learn to cope and remembering the good out weighs the sad.
Try and look after yourself as best you can and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Hi [@izzlepizzle] , I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, I can remember writing a similar post to yours, so I'd like to give you my experience so far. When hearing those words, "days/weeks", like you I felt so numb, I didn't know what to do with myself, they were the worst words I've heard and dreaded hearing. But, I can remember telling myself, it's not about me, I have time to be upset and grieve later, time is so precious now and I need to help my mum to be comfortable and calm as can be. Spend all the time in the world with your mum, share memories and do plenty of talking. Look at photographs, watch films, cuddle, anything you can think of do it together. I will be honest it is tough, and try to be strong, you will get through this, it just takes time. It will be 7weeks since my beautiful mum passed away, I am having more good days than bad days now. This is just my experience, everyone is different, so Please don't be harsh on yourself, there is no right or wrong way to be. Im sending you big hugs and wish you and your mum well. If you ever need to talk just message me xx
I read your post and wanted to reply as I know this feeling sadly.
My main advice would be to spend as much time as you can with your mum, laugh with her, cry with her and just tell her everything you want her to know. In the days afterwards when it feels incredibly difficult you will feel relief that you did this.
As you will read from many people here, it's not an easy journey, but your mum will leave all her strength with you to carry on even when it feels impossible and she will always be with you in your heart.
Also, I would say it's not possible to carry on as normal after this news, as it is life changing. Anyone that expects you to, without empathy has clearly never experienced what you're going through right now.
I'm sending a huge amount of strength and love to you and your mum for the next while. Take care of yourself too XXX
